Whew.. well life knows how to throw a curved ball. Out of the blue my husband has been diagnosed with an advanced 'rare' cancer of the rectum.. which proves the sun shines out of his bum! Apparently it's a form of skin cancer usually seen after too much sunshine. The bowel surgeon has passed us on to skin cancer specialist but thinks it's already spread to lungs and body cavity. I'm in 'freeze' section of 'flight,fight or freeze'. I have life changing conditions myself and worried about how best to support us both emotionally; he doesn't need to see my tests just my strength - at the minute I don't have much of that. The prognosis of 'months' has knocked me for 6.
Sorry to hear about your husband, these curveballs do seem to be out to get us at times.
My wife's cancer, Leiomyosarcoma, also ticks the "rare" cancer box - one plus is that we got to see the top guy most of the time but finding useful information can be harder.
We have quite a lot of information on your feelings when someone has cancer and I know at times just recognizing the feelings can help stop them becoming quite so overwhelming.
Janice never wanted a prognosis and over the years I have come to realise how sensible that was - but I really struggled at the time. With Janice's cancer however though the years I found out it would be at best a guess - Janice's second type of chemo though made her cancer stable and so now we are living with cancer rather than anything else.
<<hugs>>
Steve
