Hellooo,
I am currently struggling. My mum has stage 4 Hodgkins Lymphoma, we are currently going through a really bumpy ride. My mum got her stage 4 diagnosis end of july before her 50th birthday. She previously had stage 3. She was given months without treatment. She started treatment and had 2 rounds of the intense chemotherapy, 2 weeks after the second round my mum became seriously ill with Pneumonia, PCP and Neurtopenic Sepsis, we almost lost her twice. I slept by her side for 2 1/2 weeks, she was the miracle on the ward. 48 hours after being discharged she fell at home and broke her hip (her bones are of an 80 year old) she got rushed to another hospital and her care there was disgusting, currently in the process of writing a massive complaint, it was so bad my mum has discharged herself after they refused to transfer her to another hospital as she had a possible chest infection (she was discharged from orthopedics side of things). Trying to get help for my mum is proving difficult and now her Dr Surgery is now saying she has to find another surgery because shes moved 10 mins further down the road. I don't know what to do. I feel guilty, I work full time doing 10 hour shifts at a time, and have to do overtime so I have back up for when it gets bad again. My mums mental health has declined even further. We're not sure if they will resume treatment or not but if they do will my mum just get ill again and her quality of life? While this is all happening, my auntie (my mums sister) has stage 4 lung cancer and today we got told shes gone downhill, they are treating her as best they can but her breathing has got really bad. I'm trying my hardest at being strong and being there for mum, trying every road to go down, is there anything you think will help? Or anyway I can make her more comfortable? She is in a lot of pain at the moment.
