Hi All,
We have 4 days ago had a hospital bed delivered for my partner who has stage 4 lung cancer. He is very weak and aching a lot of the time. The bed only just fits in our bedroom next to our double bed so I have to climb over or squeeze passed it to get to the double.
My fella is refusing to use the bed. I can understand it will take a bit of getting used to with its constant movement and motor noise. It is frustrating me that he won’t give it a chance. He climbs over it or squeezes around which takes all his energy and then he complains about how he can’t sleep because he is aching so much- which I think would be improved if he used it.
I have set a Tv up at the end of it in the hope he would use in the day and get used to it but hasn’t so far. I have asked why he doesn’t want to give it a go and he just says it’s uncomfortable. I’m sure part of the problem is that we both really like our cuddles and he doesn’t want to lose that.
I wonder whether I should buy a single to replace the double to force him onto the hospital bed but it feels a bit controlling and I’ll probably end up on the hospital bed.
I’d appreciate any tips please. Many thanks,
kaz
Hi KazH
Reading your story I wondered if perhaps he feels like using the hospital bed is a bit like giving in, though having recently been in hospital myself their beds are not the same as my own.
Cuddles are an important part of a relationship and we all know how good they can be to help us cope with pain.
Perhaps the real question I might ask is how are you coping - is having him in bed stopping you getting a good nights sleep, because that is something that can make people ill quite quickly and if you are ill how will you both cope.
<<hugs>>
Steve
