Questions to ask about inevitable funeral

Hi MargeB

a warm welcome to the community. Oh good question! And a tricky one!

Not sure that there is a form as such but there's a useful link on the main website with lots of information. I took the liberty of looking it up Funeral planning | Macmillan Cancer Support

Or rather than a form, ask your husband to write his wises down and seal it in an envelope for when the time comes. I asked my mum to do that with her choice of hymns years ago after she got quite stressed trying to pick hymns for my grandmother's funeral.

All of that said, I have very little idea of the plan for my husband's funeral when the time comes. He's in the palliative phase of a stage 4 brain tumour journey. He has given our daughter some instructions but they are quite vague and his choice of music is not necessarily appropriate. (His taste in music is eclectic to say the least!)

At the end of the day all we can do is our best for them when the time comes.

love n hugs

Wee Me xx

Hello MargeB

Do you think if he had any strong views about his funeral you would already know about them?

One side of my family are open to discuss such things. The other side would find it distressing to think/talk about.

All you can do is your best and be receptive to any hints he drops.

And my dad has always said funerals are for the living....

All the best 

HPT

Hello MargeB, I'm so sorry to hear of your husbands diagnosis, I have done an online form called, My Funeral Wishes on the www.hospiceuk.org website, I don't know if a paper version is available, my best wish to you both.

Eddie xx

So sorry to hear about your husband's diagnosis, not everyone wants to discuss funeral stuff. My initial approach would be to say is there anything you wish us to consider or are you happy for us to sort everything for you because some people really don't feel able to go there, and if you push it reactions may surprise (in which case so important not to show shock though we might feel horrified). I actually wished I hadn't asked when got told absolutely no funeral, just throw my ashes in the bin/any skip, which I've mitigated to somewhere pleasant to scatter ashes plus an agreement to purchase a bench in the local park so anyone who feels upset there won't be any memorial or funeral service can have somewhere to go and pay tribute. He thinks a bench is okay because it has use, especially to older people who feel tire and need somewhere to rest a moment. But I'll admit I was initially quite shocked by what came out! Sending love x