My brother was finally (after 2 months) discharged from hospital on Friday - with incurable oesophageal cancer - to live with me. While I was fully aware of his situation, I was beginning to be unsure that he had taken on board his condition. We were looking forward to building his strength up and enjoying some little outings etc.
Tuesday morning, as we were preparing for transport to pick us up for a routine hospital appointment, he had a massive harmorrhage and was taken to ED in ambulance. Mother and other brother called, end of life treatment decided on, Nobody expected him to last the day. We are now on Thursday, and he is still here - but (understandably) anxious, and confused. He is asking for a ‘roadmap’ of where we are going. I have told him he is on a saline drip to keep hydrated, and syringe driver for pain - but don’t know how I can tell him what his situation really is (or whether I should) but the longer it goes on, the harder it is to placate him with ‘just rest’ , ‘let other people worry about that’ etc
Any thoughts on what I could/should do?
HI GF09
Oh I feel for you all. I agree with Motherofboys - try to placate him with the current plan is to get him stronger til they work out a new plan. I'd perhaps try to talk to his medical team and take their guidance on how much its wise to tell him.
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For now stay strong. Sending you a huge virtual hug and all my strength.
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