Hello
My mum has mesothelioma and is having palliative care. Prior to the diagnosis she was a force of nature but is beginning the journey of going downhill. She lives a long way from me in another part of the country (with her devoted husband - not my Dad). Neither me nor my siblings live close. Has anyone got any advice on how best to provide support. What do you say to someone who is dying but who is a very private and pragmatic person normally? Thanks
Hi Umamicat
Sorry to hear about your mum and the physical distance between you must make things extra hard.
One suggestion I have heard a number of times is not to make any significant changes since they are still the same person. However talking can help though even better can be listening.
We do have a page on What to say to someone who has cancer but perhaps it can be helpful to look at Your feelings when someone has cancer because often we have to process our own feelings before we can help those we love.
<<hugs>>
Steve
