My husband was diagnosed with stomach cancer in February and only offered palliative care. He had radiotherapy two months ago to try to shrink the tumour. The treatment seemed to completely wipe him out and since then he has lost an awful lot of weight and is so weak and unable to do all the things he is used to do. He finds eating so difficult and I have tried everything possible from the suggested meals. His taste has altered and everything tastes strange and unappetising and although he obsesses about food and what he can eat every meal is a tressed ordeal. It take him so long to eat anything and feels as if he cannot eat any more after a few mouthfuls. I feel so helpless. I want to help him . He knows I am there with him every step of the way and always will be.
I was diagnosed with breast cancer and had a mastectomy in July. I have recovered well and I am cancer free now. I wish that there was a cure for my husband and it is distressing to see him so weak and he hates seeing me doing the things he has always done . He was always such a confident man who made his own decisions .
Hi Coral
So sorry to hear about your husband, the eating question is one that comes up quite frequently between carers and their loved ones. If we look at your feelings when somebody has cancer we can see perhaps the importance of looking after ourselves - I know I did not do that too well at times.
You might find some help too in our pages on eating problems we can note as carers the impact this has on us.
<<hugs>>
Steve
