Five weeks ago my 89 year old father had his cancerous parotid gland removed as well as a neck dissertation. It's left him quite frail and he's impatient to get back to his old self.
But he's been referred for radiotherapy treatment and it's all abit confusing and overwhelming for him and everyone else.
While it was stressful before the operation, especially as it got cancelled twice due to him testing positive for covid, this seems so much worse.
I think because we have to make the decision of whether or not to have the radiotherapy. There seemed no choice regarding the operation but I have major concerns over his quality of life during and after the radiotherapy, especially at his age.
This just seems so much more stressful, I guess as it's the pressure to make the right decision.
Hope this all makes sense!?
Hi Chichi123
The worry about making a "right" decision is very real. Of course a problem is nobody actually knows so all we can do it try to get the best information possible and make the best guess. Often if can be worth looking for clues from the oncology team - do they "recommend" or is it a case of "we can offer".
It is very hard and worth noting as a carer that we only really get to support whatever decision our loved ones make.
<<hugs>>
Steve
