People talk about the various stages of dealing with life changing news. My wife had her stage 4 breast cancer confirmed today. We are devastated to say the least. We were 95% certain already but clinging to that 5% made a big difference. It is all just a bit too real now. Currently trying to work out how to break it to my (adult) children. A tough day, the first of many, I fear.
Hi Above The Clouds
a warm welcome to you. So sorry to hear your wife's news. As Debbiesbear says, it's like getting hit by a high speed train.
That train hit this family in Sept 2020 when my husband was diagnosed with a grade 4 brain tumour. We too have adult children (21 and 24 now) but they're still your babies no matter their age. My husband broke the news to him them himself and I picked up the pieces. Its a horrible thing to have to tell anyone.
I'll not lie, this is a rollercoaster ride of emotions so buckle up. This group has been a great source of support to me over the past 15 months. Friends and family are great but they don't always "get it". On here there is always someone around who gets it and is there to listen, offer some words of wisdom (not sure I have too many of those) and a virtual hug when needed.
It’s always good to talk so remember you can also call the Macmillan Support Services on 0808 808 00 00 - most services are open 8am to 8pm, 7 days a week Clicking here to see what is available. This service provides lots of cancer information, emotional support, benefit and financial guidance or just a listening ear.
For now, stay positive. Take things one step at a time. Deal with the "knowns" rather than the "what ifs" (not always easy to do) Please ensure that you take time to take care of yourself too. Even if its just a few minutes to walk round the block or go for a coffee. It's essential to help you keep going. (trust me on that one).
Sending you a huge hug and lots of positive vibes. Hang in there. Stay strong. Stay safe.
love n hugs
Wee Me xx
Macmillan Support Line - 0808 808 00 00, 7 days a week between 8am-8pm
