Could I cope at home?

Hi Gingerkitty

I think it is only natural to wonder whether you would be able to cope at home, and it is also understandable that you feel your heart break every time you leave him to go home yourself. 

There are many things that will determine suitability for home care, this extends from your own personal, mental and physical abilities to that of the layout of the home and the support that will be offered should your husband be allowed to come home. 

THIS section of the website will give you some other things to consider, only you will know if it is possible.

Looking after someone on a palliative level is not something that is suited to all people, we each must do what is best for all involved, I hope the information provided by Macmillan is of some use to you, and maybe you could ask the palliative care nurse for some better understanding as to what is available support wise in your local area.

Sending strength 

Lowe'

Hello Gingerkitty

It is very difficult to provide a high level of palliative care at home, to manage pain relief can leave you drained and tired.

Have you spoken to the community palliative care team?, they would be a great port of call to see if home treatment is possible.

Have you thought about hospice care? again the community team would be able to help and offer advice.

I hope this helps.

John.

Dear Lowe, 

Thank you so much for taking precious time to respond. After spending 4 weeks in The Christie hospital my husband was transferred to a hospice where he spent his last few days. Sadly, he passed away yesterday, peacefully, with me and our son at his bedside. 

His work is done.

xxxx

Hello John,

Thank you for caring enough to reply.

Sadly, my husband of 25 years ( 31 years together) passed away peacefully in St Anne’s hospice yesterday.

His work is done.

Dear Gingerkitty

His work is done indeed (Hugs)  

condolences to you and your son, it is always a terrible sadness and after your many years together it will be a challenging time ahead.

I wish you peace of mind and comfort in the coming days and weeks, we are still here, if you need us. 

Lowe' x

Dear Gingerkitty,

I feel your pain sending you a virtual hug.

When you are ready you may find the Bereaved Spouses And Partners Forum a good place to find support.

Try and stay safe.

John.