All over the place

Big hugs Lollie It's so hard when you've got a diagnosis but not sure what happens next or what the plan is. The best advice I would give you is try to take it one day at a time, which is hard when you've such a life changing thing happening and it's so easy to panic. When my hubby was diagnosed back in June 2020, I was reeling and found it so hard to not overthink everything!

Once you meet the medics and understand what the plan is and how/what treatment will be helps to give you a focus. This has been my experience so far.   Trips to hospital become a way of life none of us signed up for. 

Stay strong, stay positive and always here for you if you need. 

Thank you so much for taking the time to reply, I really appreciate it. I just want to get to next week, when hopefully things will be a little clearer, overthinking is definitely a problem for me right now! I hope your hubby is doing ok, and I’m here for you too 

Sending you a virtual hug, of course you are all over the place it is a huge shock, we are all human so don’t be too hard on yourself.  When my husband was diagnosed February 2019 it was such a shock I went into early menopause.  You will get through this as you just do.  Coping strategies that may help you that got me through my darkest days; Try to keep busy focus on other things as the waiting is the hardest time will drive you crazy otherwise.  Ask for support Macmillan helpline for a listening ear, shoulder to cry on when you need it.  Take each day, day by day.  Good luck x

Thank you, this is a well needed reminder to be kind to myself! I’m going to work on some nice ways to distract myself later to see if that helps. I think I need to let myself have a big cry too! Thanks for the reply and sending a virtual hug back to you 

Hi Lollie my husband was recently diagnosed with SCC skin cancer.  It's very hard to think of something else apart from what you are going through.  I found keeping busy and getting out for walks helped.  I find I have good and bad days in coping.  My husband is one of those silent types and he doesn't want to talk about it so often it's the elephant in the room.  I often write down a list of things to do and focus on those to get through the day.  I hope the your appointment goes well and things are not so bleak as you think.