Hi this is my first post, my husband is 41 and has been fighting for 2 years now. He’s been doing good (well as expected) throughout it all until the past few months where he started to struggle with food and was then admitted to hospital just over a month ago for 2 1/2 weeks so I didn’t see him properly and it was such a shock when I picked him up as he was so thin and frail. He spent a week at home and then the hospice got him a bed so he has been in there for the past week and half. He has deteriorated so much, not eating anything, very confused and I have been expecting a phone call most nights to tell me I need to go straight away. On Thursday night he cried for the very 1st time saying he was so weak and told me he thinks he’s dying which was horrible to hear him say. I really did expect a phone call that night but the next day he rang me in the morning and sounded the best he has in months. His speech was normal and no slow, he was chatting away to me as though he was fine. I went up later that day and he was great, he never fell asleep at all why I was there and tonight they are talking about letting him home tomorrow for the day for a change if scenery.
im so confused how he’s gone from being so sleepy and saying those things to this. They haven’t put him on any new medication.
im just wondering if anyone else has experienced this? I’m not getting my hopes up yet as but any advice is welcome
Thank you
Hi Enpi
Sorry to hear about your husband, it does sound very difficult. One experience we had was with my wife getting infections on top of the cancer - that can make a real challenge and be very distressing. I know I struggled a lot when my wife had a whole series of collapsed lungs with her first load of chemotherapy.
I know when I did a living with less stress course it really helped me - taught me to live more day to day as none of us really know what or when the future will happen.
<<hugs>>
Steve
