My mum 85 moved down to live closer to us 4 weeks ago & our GP has completed several initial new patient tests Last Wednesday she rang with the results which weren't good, Luckily I was out with her at the time and my amazing husband answered, he took pages of notes
The GP has arranged a scan on Friday as she believes Mum has fairly advanced ovarian cancer. Her prognosis wasn't good possibly only a year / 18 months
Mum is living with us until her retirement flat is available. She's loving being in daily contact with us & my family including her young great grandson. She's so happy , This changes everything
I cant bring myself to tell her ,yet she has been feeling so much better after years of digestive issues. She started a dairy free diet and it seems to be making a big difference.
I've told her and my brother who lives abroad, as much as I can but been careful not to state what the scan is for - no one has asked directly . I've sort of drip fed them a bit at a time, We had everything at once and it was horrendous , I've struggled to be as normal as possible since I knew . My older daughter is pregnant and her sister is very close to her gran , so I've said as little to them too
I need to tell her more before Friday but how much . & how to even start ? She will be devastated
My husband has been amazing but it's my job to manage this and I'm really struggling
Hi
Your mum may be tougher than you think and she will certainly find out soon enough - it is important though to remember at the moment it is suspicion of ovarian cancer. It is also worth noting that at best a prognosis is an educated guess - my wife never wanted one for her Leiomyosarcoma and I really struggled with that.
It might help to look at our pages on talking about cancer and possibly think about how the rest of your family might feel knowing you are struggling with this news on your own.
<<hugs>>
Steve
