Hi all, my wife has stage 4 esophgael cancer which has spread to lymph nodes and liver. After 6 months of chemo the cancer is described as stable but is treatable but not curable. She is having 3 monthly scans and I'm currently waiting on her outside the cancer centre at Guys while she is having her CT scan and consultation. Due to covid restrictions I'm not allowed to accompany her. Like most of us I'm finding the caring so sad and I'm emotionally drained but I try to keep positive and not show my feelings. My wife doesn't like discussing her cancer and tends to 'park' it and she wraps herself up in day to day stuff. I've heard reference to a 'living with stress' course with positive feedback. Does anyone know where I can obtain information about this course ? Thanks.
Steve
Hi Steve, the less stress course I did was arranged by Maggies.
One of the key lessons I learnt was about living in the here and now because truly none of us can be sure what tomorrow holds - I was worrying about how I would cope without my wife and not really enjoying the time we had together.
Another useful skill was conscious breathing, when things seem overwhelming tp step back and take control of my breathing before coming forward again is helpful, but it was also a useful skill for relaxing too. I downloaded a programme on my phone chill panda that has some exercises that can be helpful.
Transcendental meditation though just made me laugh.
<<hugs>>
Steve
