Mum just diagnosed with Breast cancer

Hi and a warm welcome to the community, the best club on the planet we wish that nobody ever needed.

First and foremost - you are exceptional - you found the community really early, much sooner that I did and you have recognized that cancer affects everyone not just the patient. If you look through Looking after someone with cancer you can see how normal your emotions are.

That "trying to stay positive bit" - very easy to say - delivery though it tough. I have even seen patients in my families time living with cancer who have said of the family "they never show any emotion". A really good guide is talking to someone who has cancer though of course just like any conversation a key part is listening. 

In terms of appearance there is a really good sister charity feel good look better than can help, while others like to face their cancer treatment head on. 

One story I found quite inspiration was of a group or women who broke the Guiness World record for the worlds biggest skinny dip - I certainly like the quote "I only have one boob and I’m bald, so what’s your excuse?"

My wife's cancer cancer, Leiomyosarcoma, came from her womb rather than her breast - you mum did a fantastic job though in getting things checked out and is on a great path - though often we all recognize that it can seem to take forever like the world has gone in to slow motion.

Keep posting, ring the helpline whatever you need because we will stand with each other and never need to feel alone with our friends here, we all need help to be the best support for those we love.

<<hugs>>

Steve

Thank you so much for replying so quick. It was very helpful to read your comment and I shall look into the groups suggested. One thing I was told by a friend who lost her father to this awful disease is that you should always talk about it and not build it up. I do find it hard to talk to people who haven't experienced a loved one with cancer although I know they are trying to support me. I don't want people to feel I need sympathy especially as I am not the one who is Ill. My mum is like my best friend and I am looking for comfort in these groups and to take guidance to help me help her. 

I really feel for you having been in your situation (still am)  My mums breast cancer journey started many years ago.  

There really is no right or wrong way to feel at this time, i went from starting to already grieving to being angry at the world to feeling scared to have to help my mum.

You may not be the one that is suffering with cancer physically but emotionally you are.  Be kind to yourself, caring for a loved one with this horrid illness is so very hard.

The only thing you can do is be there, and listen, and go to appointments if you can, and if thats what mum wants.

Hopefully the news that it has been caught early will mean treatment will knock this horrid illness on its head.

Always here if u wanna chat x

Thank you, it really helps to know I'm not alone. 

I am trying to keep positive now and wait for Thursday to come and we will know exactly what we are facing.

Then we can deal with the next step of this journey together. 

I can then mentally prepare myself and support my mum through the treatment plan. 

I feel comfort from talking in this group, it's a lonely place to be in the normal world as everything just keeps going as normal and I am stuck just thinking about the C word and how it changes everything. 

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