My husband has stage 4 colorectal cancer and also prostate cancer. He’s managed pretty well since his first diagnosis 3 years ago. Suddenly things have changed and he’s sleeping most of the time and very unsteady on his feet. He started back on capecitabine two weeks ago and I hate the fact that he’s feeling worse. He’s determined to keep fighting but I feel that his last ‘ however long’ is going to be miserable due to the chemo. I can’t say this to him as he’s so sure it’ll keep him going. We’ve been married 40 years and I just feel so sad to see him like this. I know the end will come eventually but when he’s not on the chemo he’s in no pain and much more alert. Winge over. Just feeling down + it’s my birthday tomorrow and I’ve never felt so unbirthdayish !!! Thanks for reading xx
Hi Carpetbagger
Fingers crossed the cancer is feeling even much worse than your husband - some can be very hard and have some amazing effects - my wife was glad I read the information and warned her about the bright red wee.
Winge here whenever - we understand, we have been there. Hope you manage to find some light for your birthday.
<<hugs>>
Steve
Thank you Steve. I’m sure after a good nights sleep things will seem better. He’s got a week off them after tomorrow so we should have the old man back for a while
My husband has just started chemo on 2nd March. He is on 14 days of Capecitabine tablets with 2 doses a day. Since day 5 he has been struggling with pain, loss of appetite & difficultly eating anything. He is forcing himself to eat & drink because he has to. It is difficult to see him like this. Your message has given me hope that next week when he is off the tablets he will be more like his 'normal' self. I really hope he can eat & put on some weight he's lost before he starts his next cycle.
It was my birthday & my daughters birthday a couple of weeks ago 1 day after the other. It was difficult celebrating for her thinking about what was to come. She is young & we haven't spoken about the diagnosis (we've been told it's incurable cancer) only the treatment. I have secretly kept Valentines & Birthday cards that my husband has written just in case.
Hope your husband has had a good few days off the tablets.
I do hope your husband gets some respite on his time off the tablets. Mine is certainly more alert this week. We have to sort his diabetes out now as the chemo has made that go awry! I don’t know, blooming men ! He goes back to the hospital on Monday to for the next bout . Keep your chin up. You’re not alone xx
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