Struggling

FormerMember
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I lost my Mum to Covid at the end of October (secondary breast cancer underlying) and my partner is terminally ill with tumour in his nose which has spread to his brain. Today he was admitted to hospital because he has developed diabetes from the dexamethasone he’s taking and they need to manage his symptoms. 

I am home now and feeling very low. I would usually call my Mum for support but I can’t and it’s like my first taster of life without my partner now I’m alone in the house. I live far from my family and finding it very hard because of the lockdown too.

sorry to just offload but I’m scared Worried and my anxiety is creeping up. I’m usually very strong but feel hopeless this evening xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi, so sorry to hear that you are struggling, but understandably considering what you are going through. I cannot imagine how hard this is for you after losing your mum. So sorry to hear that. My paPrayner has Terminal cancer and I am disabled. Not ready is it. Hugs and PrayPrayPray.

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    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    Thank you for taking time to answer. I’m sorry for you, it’s so difficult. Sending back hugs to you too xxx

  • HI Lissiloo  I am so sorry to hear about your husband and your mum. Be reassured you're not alone. There's always someone on here to listen and offer virtual hugs.

    My husband is terminally too with a brain tumour. I get it. It's hard. It's heartbreaking  and if you're anything like me, you've probably never felt so useless in your life but guess what- you're not useless. You're stronger than you think and your best is amazing. You will get through this. 

    I hope they get him stabilised soon so that you can get him home with you. 

    Hang in there. Stay strong.

    big hugs

    Wee me xx

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Yes it is hard to be alone, I lost my husband one month ago and the house is very silent. You will find a lot of caring out there, with Cruze and if your partner finds his way to a hospice then they will support you. You will get through it and there is support. One day at a time

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    FormerMember in reply to Wee Me

    Hi Wee me thank you for your kind words and I’m sorry for you too. It’s like living with a time bomb isn’t it? I find it hard standing by and watching him change and I can’t do anything about it. 

    sending hugs back xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Oh so hard and I’m sending a big virtual hug! You’ve been through a lot.  Please take care of yourself.  I hit a big low and had to work hard at caring for myself.  Now I’m feeling better and able to take the storms of caring and loneliness better (I’m not alone but feel that way in spirit.). 

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    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    Thank you Blush