Hello
Im heather, im a young autistic woman who is normally quite shy, so joining this group and posting is a big step in itself
My beloved mama has stage 4 advanced breast cancer, which has spread to her liver, neck and back, unfortunately she doesnt have long left on earth with us
I guess i just hoped there were people out there that are going through similiar things and that understand the way im feeling as my family are great but they dont really understand, and i guess being autistic and struggling with anxiety at the best of times doesnt really help either
Is there anyone else who is caring for someone but also trying to manage their own complex needs at the same time
And to top it all off, i was suppose to be getting married in 6 wks time with my mama giving me away but Covid put a spanner in the works there, im hoping i can rearrange and still have her walk me down the aisle buts it doubtful
Hi HeatherAlexandra1996 welcome to the forum and so sorry that you have not a had a reply as yet. Well done for taking the first step and posting its a big thing for you and that's great that you felt able to reach out here.
Covid has put lots of spanners in the works for lots of things and you sound as if you have a lot happening at the same time getting married is a big stressor at the best of times but throw Covid restrictions in and everything goes awry. Then put a loved one who is very unwell and coming to the end of their life who is so very dearly loved then its little wonder that you are feeling as you do.
Hope that you are managing to take some time out of all this just for you and making time for you as this is so important at such a challenging time for you.
Sending some hugs your way meantime. xxx
Hi,
I too am dealing with my own complex needs as I suffer with mental health problems. My mum has stage 4 breast cancer with lung mets. This means I feel like I can’t ask for her support as usual because I should be supporting her.
it’s very isolating and with stress at work it can sometimes feel too much.
I can empathise with the shyness but I find message boards etc useful as there is no face to face. Perhaps your fiancé can help you through this tough time.
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