Accessing help or counselling

Just checking in to see how you’re doing, you’ve been on my mind....Budge x

Hello again, 
wow, 45 years! I am impressed! 

I know it will be hard but we will cope. I am however acutely aware that i need to put things in place sooner rather than later to help me do so (the kids will leave home as well at some point soon so it is going to be a major shock to the system) such as joining clubs, activities, etc as an independent ‘grown up’. Obviously all that is up in the air with covid at the moment, but i saw that there are things online etc. 

Sounds like you’re trying to work through things, which is good, kids leave home, but they’ll still be there, our daughters 40 and after a failed marriage was happy to live back with us, along with our granddaughter, it’s a sizeable house so plenty of room, so I won’t actually live alone but hopefully they’ll get on with their lives, as they should, so yes, I also know I’ll have to make a life for myself,  scary though.  I’ve also told my darling sister in law, to make sure I don’t go down any rabbit holes, I trust her, she’ll tell me straight. It’s a pity there isn’t a club like an old wives club, sadly not all the members will be old. 

To be honest, right now I’m more worried about what’s coming on Monday, seems we’re not seeing his colorectal oncologist, we’re seeing a lung cancer oncologist. Hubby questioned why he was seeing a lung cancer oncologist, I said why do you think, it’s because it’s gone to your liver and lung. He said I haven’t got lung cancer, he denied hearing and reading that it has spread to liver and lungs, he then saw the letter. Then it was, ‘how do you know this treatment hasn’t cleared it all’,  it’s really hard to know the right things to say especially at times like that, I know it’s going to get worse but I’ve been too preoccupied with my reactions, but now I’m really worried about his. 

Sounds like you’re trying to work through things, which is good, kids leave home, but they’ll still be there, our daughters 40 and after a failed marriage was happy to live back with us, along with our granddaughter, it’s a sizeable house so plenty of room, so I won’t actually live alone but hopefully they’ll get on with their lives, as they should, so yes, I also know I’ll have to make a life for myself,  scary though.  I’ve also told my darling sister in law, to make sure I don’t go down any rabbit holes, I trust her, she’ll tell me straight. It’s a pity there isn’t a club like an old wives club, sadly not all the members will be old. 

To be honest, right now I’m more worried about what’s coming on Monday, seems we’re not seeing his colorectal oncologist, we’re seeing a lung cancer oncologist. Hubby questioned why he was seeing a lung cancer oncologist, I said why do you think, it’s because it’s gone to your liver and lung. He said I haven’t got lung cancer, he denied hearing and reading that it has spread to liver and lungs, he then saw the letter. Then it was, ‘how do you know this treatment hasn’t cleared it all’,  it’s really hard to know the right things to say especially at times like that, I know it’s going to get worse but I’ve been too preoccupied with my reactions, but now I’m really worried about his.