Carer burnout

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Hi,

I feel guilty as my wife survived cancer here while many on here haven't been so fortunate. I came very close to losing her twice from triple positive breast cancer

I was watching Ricky Gervais Afterlife tonight  it's a but rude, but he is going through the emotions of losing his wife to cancer, and it has hit me. I feel like I am grieving the loss of my wife as twice I was told to be prepared to lose her and I relate to the emotions Ricky is going through in this, and I am wondering if my brain had kind of accepted I lost her, and it has always been there, even though she is still alive and recovering. Has anyone else felt this? Or is it burnout from having to juggle my life for the past 3 years?

Kind Regards

Tom

  • hi ,

    I can definitely relate to where you are coming from after nearly losing my wife to sepsis, then the cancer and 6 pneumothoraces and having been on the cancer bandwagon for 6 years.

    We like to have this belief that we will all live forever but in practice we know that is not true. When I was young my mum always said we should wear clean underwear in case we were run down by a bus.

    I did a living with less stress course with Maggies and perhaps the most important thing I learnt was around appreciating what we have now. Perhaps the most important lesson for us all though is to be kind to ourselves, life is hard enough without this worry.

    <<hugs>>

    Steve 

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  • Thanks Steve,

    That's means a lot to see that someone related to this.  That's interesting about the concept of living in the now, and I have heard of this before on Lifehack, and I should really perhaps looking into this a bit more.

    Thank you for your message.

    Tom