Blood transfusions

Hi Librasky

I've just popped into the carer group to say welcome.  I'm sorry to hear about your Dad.  Caring for someone with cancer is very hard but must be doubly stressful in this present crisis when you can't be with while he's in hospital.

I cared for my husband, who is frail, and when he was diagnosed with lung cancer a few years ago, he had extensive test to make sure that he was strong enough to have surgery.  He did have his surgery and was fine afterwards.

I know that sometimes it is better to delay treatment until they feel that the patient is strong enough to cope with the surgery.  Your dad should have been given details of his Cancer Specialist Nurse or Key Worker if you have that number contact her/him to discuss your fears.  The CSN/KW are there not only to support your dad but to support you too.

I hope your dad will soon be able to have his surgery.

Take care of yourself too, and I'm sure other will be in touch with you soon.

VickiLynne.

Hi, I am going through  a similar situation with my husband  (67) who has duodenal cancer. He went in for a major op but it couldn't be done due to its proximity to major arteries. so he had a gastric bypass and is starting chemo. However the tumour keeps bleeding and he ends up in hospital without me able to help him, and in unsuitable wards. finding out what is happening in a nightmare. I so understand how you are feeling, we have been in isolation for ten weeks and to be honest the strain is beginning to show on me too, as i have to be strong and positive for him and  who do i let my fears out on? in the middle of the night on my own is when. Hence i am here letting some of the worries out. 

What i did when my husband was in hospital was  get the number of the ward and ring them. i did manage to get my husband moved to a side ward on two occasions. i also arranged to take things up to the hospital and get a nurse to pick things up outside and deliver to him, FaceTime was important for us if your dad can manage that.