Eating when you are in emotional shock

Hi and a warm welcome to carers, although I'm sorry to hear what you're both going through. It's amazing how some cancer sufferers are, as you say, 'being practical', while some of us, like you and me, go to pieces in the early days. I fell apart at the seems until I got help from Macmillan. I wonder if there are any Maggie's Centres near you? They run courses to help with the stress and people speak very highly of them; also you could try for local cancer support groups. You're right, he needs you, and you will find that deep within you is the strength that you need and the right support will help you find it. That said, please don't feel bad; your reaction is no different from most of us facing what you've been hit with. 

Avoid Google like the plague if you can; while it's too late in one way, you've seen the 'horror stories', I wonder if you could imagine an alarm bell and close a page you're reading if it causes distress? It might be a good idea to call the helpline 0808 808 0000 for a chat with one of our experts. They're open 8-8 every day and chatting about your fears could help so much. I can feel your fear in your words, 'It terrifies me when people vomit'. There is a genuine phobia of vomiting, called emetophobia, perhaps you could talk to your doctor for some help. One last thing, check out this page which provides help with emotions.

Love and hugs,

Thank you so much this is hugely helpful. I do have Maggie’s at the hospital. It is a hour from my home. But I expect we will be the daily for 6 weeks. My appetite is gone and I am forcing food . My husband however is sleeping and eating normally bless him 

I thank you for your support