i have wondered for a long while who do partners of people with cancer talk to. It’s ok talking to friends and family and I thought I would know the answers to all things having watched my father die of cancer as a child. It seems I don’t. I think often of how my mother coped at the time and I only have admiration for how she was. Now I am not the child but the wife. Sometimes I feel very sad sometimes I am angry and sometimes I don’t know how to feel at all.
Hi and welcome to the community, even if it is a club nobody wants to join. Sorry to hear about your husband and about your father too.
Your emotions sound really very typical, you might like to read I'm looking after someone with cancer and especially the bits around the emotional effects that I am sure we can all share.
One thing we get to learn on here is everyone is an individual and the main way to cope is sometimes to live on a day-to-day basis and not look to far into the future. I did a living with less stress course with Maggies that really helped me; before that I was in some dark future that so far at least has not materialised after her diagnosis over 6 years ago.
Remember to look after yourself and if you need support come here, ring the helpline, whatever it takes and we will try to help.
<<hugs>>
Steve
