I’m feeling confused and alone. My boyfriend was diagnosed with incurable lung cancer at the beginning of March. I cannot fully feel the devastation he must feel but I too and devastated. I’ve done my absolute best to be kind, loving and compassionate as well as do what I can from a practical point of view.
However, irrationally, he has turned on me and been blaming, angry and pushed me away.
I’m hurt, guilty, confused, exhausted, sad, helpless and at a loss as to what to do as well as ‘look after myself’ and my children (what everyone advises).
Is this a familiar story to anyone else? Is it the chemo? Is it the steroids?
Thank you.
Dear all lovely responders
The biggest, biggest thank you for the kindest thoughts and experiences you have sent my way. It’s really meant the world to have this.
My conscience is niggling me because I love this man and want to be by his side to help him but he’s pushed me away entirely. I have contacted his friends and family because he has a pivotal oncologist appointment on Wednesday and I wanted to be sure someone else would attend with him.
Ive done my very best I really have and I’m so sad. But now I need to hand this one over and concentrate on my little family, my house and my work.
With gratitude to you all
xxx
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