Should I give up work to carefortermunally Ill husband?

Hi Maureen,

Sorry to read you are in this position, it is such a difficult choice and I really have no idea how I would make such a decision in your place. One thought though is what does your partner think as I am sure you will have shared important decisions in the past.

Whatever you decide an important part of the decision is to remember to make some "you time". It might help to talk to a benefits adviser

<<hugs>>

Steve 

We’re all different but I found work a life saver when my husband had cancer because it was a distraction. I was never more than half an hour away if there was an emergency and I went to see him

in hospital before and after work and at lunchtimes. It probably depends on your job - mine is demanding and long hours but I can set my own timetable to a degree.

Plus - we needed the money. I felt guilty but it would probably have been worse with added stress if I’d given up work and we’d got repossessed or into debt. 

It was difficult, I was worried about being able to do my job as I got promoted the same day he got diagnosed and he pushed me to take the job despite my fears and guilt. He pointed out I could try it and always give up if it got too much.

as I said everyone is different but I found colleagues a huge support and also it was good to have a chunk of my life that wasn’t about cancer. It was somewhere I could be me as well as bring a carer. 

Now I am also grateful to have a job to go to. Of course if you give up this job you can always get another one if you want later on. 

Good luck with your choice. 

Hello Maureen, wondering what you decided to do? I’m in the same situation you were in March. Work feels like therapy for me but my husband has very little time left. I’m thinking I need to stop for a bit - get signed off by my GP ( who has already suggested this).

I hope whatever you did turned out ok.