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Hi, I'm very sorry to read that you had this bad news.

I know you explained why you don't support the "he had a good innings" and I totally get that, BUT, I do think you should focus on that at least as a source of comfort. 

I'm 47 and being faced with major uncertainty about how long I might have left, BUT, even at 47 I think to myself I've had more life to enjoy than friends and family that have gone before me.

A friend who died at 20, a cousin who died at 18, for example. 

Another risky one here but genuinely just trying to help since you mentioned it... you talked about your fear of the pain he might go through, have you thought of assisted dying?... I know it's something I will be looking into for myself if I get to that point.

Again, I'm so sorry and only have best wishes for you and your dad.

Steve xo

My parents are so open minded about everything but for some reason they do not believe in that, which suprised me, we spoke about it in general before he was ill. I got them to watch pru on sons death trip on TV but they were still having non of it.

I am sorry you are going through this ureself and your thought process is admirable, I am deffo not as strong as you

I haven't watched that program, will have to look it up.

I honestly don't think it's about being strong, it's just about making a choice in your mind.

Did you ask why they don't believe in it, if you don't mind me asking.

im studying counselling and psychotherapy at uni, in my final year, we have done a lot on assisted suicide (that i agree with), a little advice that hopefully you wont need. Make sure you are still in "sound mind" (clinically) when u decide, if you leave it too late then no-one will listen to you. Or write something now and have it dated and signed by 2 witnesses that you can pull out if you ever need it. If you havent watched Pru and sons death road trip then watch it, you will see the best places in the world for it and the worst. But I hope you never have to consider that and you get to ring the bell too

Hi Steve.  A few years ago I knew someone who had MND and was seriously looking into assisted dying.  Sadly, the disease got him first.  He was a similar age to yourself xx

i think it's religious reasons?? they think that people can be manipulated into making decisions etc they also think medicine is god and is so advanced suicide wouldnt be needed lol (generational thing), i said they cant comment until they are in that situation

Hi again scared78.  Do you mind my asking what cancer your dad's been diagnosed with?  My dad had bowel cancer but much older than your dad at 94.  He realised he was too frail for treatment and just took the pain relief given xx

chronic lymphocytic leukaemia

My cousins husband died a couple of years ago with that. Think he was late 50s but suffered badly for quite a few years before. 

I just think if we have medicine there to take it out of God's hands and extend out lives. Then we should be allowed to take it out of God's hands and use medicine to give us a peaceful death too. 

We do it for our pets! And we all say they still get to heaven. So why not us?