Awake and up all night

Hi. I'm caring for my wife who has cancer. Luckily she sleeps okay, but I'm the one who wakes up every other hour, so disrupt her sleep. I've taken to going into the spare bedroom which we're lucky to have. I tend to ruminate and worry and get anxious. She's the one who has all the aches and pains. I've got so down after months of appointments scans and treatments. It's so lovely to be part of this community and I know some people are having it so much worse.

Hello Ukiboy 

Welcome to this group - I see you are already a member of the Carers Only group and have received some support there too. I can't imagine what it's like having to support your partner through cancer - I know my wife is there for me - and her support is amazing and I can't tell her enough.

Remember our Support Line is there for you on 0808 808 00 00 (8am to 8pm 7 days a week) and it's a free call  - Give them a call, they can help.

Keep posting in this group - they are a great set of folk and are also very supportive.

Best wishes - Brian.

Thank you Brian. Means alot to have your support.

Im sorry for saying about what I have been through,I get that this is purely about cancer and I don't want to make anyone feel down.lots of hugs coming your way xxx

Hi there Ukiboy, and a very warm welcome to our group of chatterboxes and insomniacs.

I fall into the latter, as like yourself I'm a full-time carer for my OH. He has no problems with sleeping, but my sleep pattern bit the dust eighteen months ago when he was diagnosed, and shows no signs of getting back on track, so I get you and the constant anxiety that also accompanies the relentless appointments. We also sleep in different rooms as sharing one is impossible, for a myriad of reasons. It's not great, but we try to make the best of the life we must make now, and I think we're winning. Bulletproof!

I hope you get positive responses from the carer's forum, but do keep posting here whenever you like as it's pretty upbeat and we discuss lots of other things, apart from cancer.

Take care and sending you both big hugs xxx

Hey Adz, no apologies as you're welcome to post anything you want to. I very much doubt anyone feels down about your posts as they're all a way of getting to know each other. Keep on keeping on my lovely xxx

Thanks Gill. Appreciate this ️

Welcome to the group. You can see we are all very supportive and the chats here are often about anything and everything. I see you have already received some amazing support so just wanted to personally welcome you aboard too.

It is difficult at times to support those we love and care for during a cancer journey, and often those who are partners or family often get over looked but they are also going through the emotions too. Which makes this and other forums a great place to chat and express things we struggle to verbalise. 

We have a great mix of people in this group. All with different experiences, emotions, thoughts, ideas and advice. 

Best wishes, 

Jamie  

My OH sleeps in the spare room too. Steroids twice a week keep me up dancing in the night!  It's important for him to sleep as he's going through this too and I can come and go as I please without disturbing him. 

Try to get some rest yourself. It's important for you to look after yourself too, especially as you're caring for your wife.

Julie xx

Hello, and a very warm welcome to the group. I am so sorry what you are going through. Good luck with your scans. x