Awake and up all night

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Are you having trouble sleeping?

Sleep problems may be caused by how you’re feeling emotionally, or as part of the side effects for cancer treatment. If you find it hard to have a good sleep, you’re not alone. The Online Community is here to support you 24/7.

“Getting a cancer diagnosis is extremely stressful, and that brings a whole load of emotions, and lack of sleep certainly does not help. I think many of us have periods of insomnia. I experienced a long period of not sleeping. I could go off to sleep quite quickly, but after an hour I would find myself wide awake again, and would spend the rest of the night getting frustrated because I couldn't sleep."
Community member, ‘Pancreatic cancer’ group

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Ukiboy 2 months ago in reply to Gill H

They did thanks Gill. Best nurse ever.

Ukiboy 2 months ago in reply to Millibob

Love that.

Ukiboy 2 months ago in reply to Julie2468

How did it go?

Saz87 2 months ago

Hi is anyone around? Just looking for a little bit of support n advice x

Gill H 2 months ago in reply to Ukiboy

Aw brilliant news, Uki ️

I'm so pleased for you both and hope it'll bode well for a relaxing evening.

Well done your battler OH xxx

Gill H 2 months ago in reply to Saz87

Good evening Saz, and a warm welcome to our group

You'll get plenty of support here, hon. Would you like to tell us a little bit about the advice you're looking for sweetheart? xxx

Ukiboy 2 months ago in reply to Gill H

Went into Leeds to check out old stomping grounds. We lived in a bolt on greenhouse type flat in Roundhay. The windows froze up on the inside and the water pipes froze that ran under the flat in the garage below. We went to see it again quite a few years ago and it had burnt down because of an electric fire.

Saz87 2 months ago in reply to Gill H

Yeah! I am 39 my partner was diagnosed with terminal cancer just over a year ago, lately I have been struggling to come to terms with that as we have 2 young kids 10/13, we have been together 17 years, lately he’s been really angry and mostly directed at me and I am hurting so bad he’s made ridiculous accusations and sometimes looks at me like I am the devil x

Gill H 2 months ago in reply to Saz87

Oh Saz, you poor love and your poor husband too.

Neither of you are at fault for what happened, but you're both hurting and I guess hubby is lashing out at you as you're in his direct firing line, being the one closest to him.

I imagine it's upsetting the kids too, and you need some help sooner rather than later.

You could start the ball rolling by ringing the Macmillan helpline in the morning for their advice, as they'll know which steps you could take to resolve your very sad and difficult situation. Unfortunately it's too late tonight but the helpline opens at 8am tomorrow.

Have you spoken to anyone else about how you're both feeling hon? His medical team or GP? We're not qualified here on such matters but can advise you if that's what you'd like. Have a think about it and if you think hubby would also be willing to accept help with his feelings, maybe you'll both feel better.

Sending you comforting hugs, my lovely xxx

Ukiboy 2 months ago in reply to Saz87

Gill is the voice of reason. It sounds to me like he's frightened. Men in our society find it hard to express their emotions and it's not uncommon for men to regulate with anger. I'm the prince of leaking eyes so just blub when stuff is too much. I do think Gill's right in saying it's a good idea to connect your GP. I don't know your situation but it could be something medical or medication that is causing this. I know that my OH as got ratty with me sometimes but that's because it's easier to let stuff out with someone you feel safe with. You've been brave by coming on the group. I think of people on here as an extended family and they help me through dark times. I send you and your family all my love. Uki.