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“Getting a cancer diagnosis is extremely stressful, and that brings a whole load of emotions, and lack of sleep certainly does not help. I think many of us have periods of insomnia. I experienced a long period of not sleeping. I could go off to sleep quite quickly, but after an hour I would find myself wide awake again, and would spend the rest of the night getting frustrated because I couldn't sleep."
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You've both done well to spend time away from home. I hope it has boosted OH's confidence, and yours as well. It is not easy when there are care routines that can't be skipped. Carrying them out in unfamiliar facilities adds more hurdles to negotiate. At least when you arrive home the glasses of water should be better behaved. I hope the electronics have all dried out and resumed full working order. 'Home, sweet home' is an understandable and common reaction after being away, but I'm sure it was nice while it lasted and a lovely gesture by your eldest. xxx
Thank you Ray, and she is indeed very kind and generous. It's been fantastic to see different walls for a couple of days.
The remotes back at the mansion were working fine today, thank goodness, but not so sure about my phone. It's really struggled since York and I'm starting to wonder if all the water it swallowed did some internal damage. Either that or it doesn't like train journeys, but it's going back in my bag now as we've reached Leeds.Should be home in about an hour.
I've got a good pic for the gull group later on. Hugs hon xxx
I checked my diary to see when I last stayed away from home. It was in July 2020. My daughter and husband had rented a cottage in South Wales and invited me over for 2 nights with the landlord's approval. I enjoyed it. However, my dodgy mobility and bag antics proved tricky. The bed height was lower than mine and another single bed in 'my' cottage bedroom left a gangway of only half a metre. Getting undressed for bed and the reverse in the morning was nearly impossible as I could not swing my legs in the well practiced way. A new way had to be attempted. It strained joints and pulled muscles. The shower at the cottage had a corner entry to the glass enclosed cubicle. I had a hell of a job getting in and out of it. More strained muscles! These fairly trivial problems gave me a persistent headache after the 2nd night. The cottage was lovely, as was the scenery and company, but I just HAD to get home. I think it has put me off staying away from home overnight as I've declined subsequent offers or invites from more able bodied friends. Day trips, I'll consider, not nights away. I'm impressed by how well you both managed. OH needs to brush up his romantic skills. Try grabbing his hand occasionally, not his beer mug hand, of course . Ray xxx
Hi again Ray All unpacked and everything back in place but it's a bit of a nightmare really - I'll need Helen to give me some tips as she's a seasoned expert at this lark.
We had the exact opposite to your cottage problem as the rooms were huge! Our ensuite number was easily 6 times the size of our biggest, none ensuite bedroom. Never mind swinging cats, a whole zoo could have been swung with room to spare!
The shower was a massive walk-in one with those big hose heads, but OH couldn't really use it because of the position of his stoma - we used another bathroom for that, with bath, further down the corridor.
Aw it's a real shame you struggled at the cottage Ray, but I think we both struck gold with our respective daughters. And OH and me hold hands all the time - except if he's swilling a rare pint or I'm lugging 2 heavy bags of shopping, which is every 2 days!
Enjoy your evening, hon xxx
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