My husband died in my arms on the 2nd May (2009) - what happens now?

dear helen,

Glad to hear the decorating went well - bet the glass of wine goes down well too.
This website hs some very tasteful pendants etc - might be of some interest.


http://www.gems4ever.co.uk/

When Alan's ashes were buried we had a short ceremony led by a friend who is a local preacher and was alan's best mate. it was lovely, and I laid my posy (I don't do wreaths) in the ground with him.

Sue x

Hi everyone. Hope you are all okay. Well done with the decorating Helen and that is brilliant news about the church. Like Lynne I go to the cemetery everyday to speak with Chris. I am not sure what I will do in the winter. A friend has offered to come with me so I won't be in the dark on my own - she thinks I might not be safe. I think we may have to cut down on the number of times we go though if we are being sensible Lynne. I haven't quite reached the closure you mentioned yet Sue - Chris is buried with his Dad and older brother so the grave is quite old. It means I have to wait 6 months after the funeral to have the headstone put back on. I want a curb round the grave as well. I have organised it all but it can't go on until mid-November. It sort of feels unfinished until that gets done. In the meantime I planted loads of flowers on the grave for this summer so that it wasn't un-marked. I go to water the plants and it makes me feel like I am still looking after Chris. Sometimes I take a book and a chair and sit and read for an hour - very calming.

The pendant sounds nice Helen. I bought a gold bracelet in Chris's memory last week. For my 50th last year he bought me a 3 colour gold necklace. It is called '3 Promises - friendship, love and trust'. It is so sentimental I decided it deserved the bracelet to make the set and Chris would have bought it if he had seen it first. I will wear them to my sisters wedding in November.
WEll - I need to do some ironging before bed so goodnight all. Ailsa xx

Dear Gayle
Welcome back. Driving through Paris - are you mad????????????/ I am SOOOOO impressed; I wouldn't even drive through London.
so glad you enjoyed your holiday, even if you did buy an extra ticket.

Wishing you all the best for Wednesday; don't worry. Jamie will love it. (There speaks a reception class teacher!!) bit of a double whammy with his birthday on the same day, but it will be alright. You will cope.
Sue x