My husband died in my arms on the 2nd May (2009) - what happens now?

night, Helen.
sleep well
sue x

Night night all i'm off to my bed to recover, see you all tommrow .I love the Full monty Helen...
Lynne xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Night everyone. Still didn't manage to get the things done that I had planned but I will try again tomorrow. We will be thinking about you next weekend for Gordon's birthday Lynne. Hope you have a good night sleep Fiona, Sue, Helen & Kaz & anyone else whose still up. Take care. Ailsa xx

will think of you next saturday for gordon's birthday lynne.

Hope everyone manages to sleep well. Love and angel hugs x x Patricia x x

Afternoon everyone

Strange day today, I`ve started painting and remembered how much I hate it!!! I also still had Paul`s nebuliser here that was on loan from the local authority, I had phoned last week to have it collected and they said it was due for collection. Well the poor delivery man came today and had a new one to replace it, he was so apologetic when I explained Paul wouldn`t need it!! So much for communication eh?? I`m sure Paul would have made a joke about that but I can`t think what at the moment!!

Some good news too, so why has it made me cry??? The vicar from the church where we got married, had the children christened etc has phoned to say we can have Paul`s ashes buried there and a headstone. I am so pleased!!!! They have only agreed due to Paul`s mum and dad living in the parish (we don`t anymore) and because Paul was young (the rules to have ashes there are living in the parish or having relatives already buried there) If nature had been different Paul would have been here after his mum and dad so they are allowing it under that.

Just need to sort out son and daughter as they want some of the ashes in a little box/locket.

Oh well better get back to the painting, just wanted to share my news

Helen xxx

Oh, Helen - what lovely news for you about Paul's ashes - I find it so comforting to have a placeto go to chat to Alan, and now that the plaque has gone onto the stone it's somehow a closure. i go and chat most days, and it helps. Not surprised it made you cry, though.
i'm like you where painting and decorating are concerned; full of big ideas, love the finished item, but the bit in between, well..................................... I have to confess I'm getting a man in to do alice's room.
your room will look great when it's finished.
Sue x

Hi Guys Well done Helen for decorating..
and great news about the Church...I am going to put some of Micks ashes in little jewel boxes for his children. I did this with my mums and it is lovely to keep....Have not decided what to do with the ashes though just like him at home for now...
Got my daughter and boyfriend over in a bit, they want a BBQ so that will be nice as long as the sun stays out!!!
kaz xxxxxxxx

Hi Everyone , Good news about the church Helen , do you knoww hen your burying them yet ? Hope the sun stays ot Kaz , i've just got back from the cemetery and the temp in the car said 24 , so hope its warm there too . It is nice to have somewhere to go Sue to talk to them , i go everyday before wirk and then later on when i've finished , but i'm already starting to panic about the dark mornings and nights , i know the gates shut early but i wouldn't want to go in the dark anyway . I supose i will drop off how many times i go but for now i need it . I've got a litttle blackboard up there (no i didn't steal it of the little ones ) and put little messages on it , and if someone else goes they sign it , yeah i know i/m mad. Hope everybody has had a good day Thanks Trisha and Ailsa , i am dreading sat , thank goodness i'll have plenty people here ..


Lynnexxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

lynne, hi
what a lovely idea about the little blackboard - i love it.When I was in a garden centre in Cornwall I saw a solar powered candle-effect lantern; might get one next time i go down.
we've had several birthdays since Alan died 12 weeks ago, including his and mine, and our wedding anniversary - you'll be OK, Lynne, surrounded by people.