My husband died in my arms on the 2nd May (2009) - what happens now?

i'll opt for the detention as well - no way am I going out in this.

lynne, love, really hope dad makes a quick recovery - what a good job he's in your hospital. takes some of the pressure off when you can  just pop in and out to see him during the day.

ailsa - love and hugs - hope you make it to the cemmy.

down south we'r e just not used to this weather, like you hardy northerners are - alan came from lancashire, and spent some time living on Pendle  Hill (he made me climb to the  top once -I refused to go again)   and he always used to take the mickey out of soft southerners for being so pathetic in the snow.    Huh!! i'll be as pathetic as I want to because it's bloomin freezing and slippery  and i'm a wuss and i don't like it.

rant over.

sue xx

Hi all thanks for your kind replies the other day.

Yes Sue Nic was beautiful and on the inside as well.The day those photos were taken she had been taken from here to the hospice in pain that morning.She was so determined not to miss her boys big day,she made the hospice let her out for afew hours,thats how much she cared about us all.

Any way on another  note its snowing heavily on the Isle of Wight and George is off school.

So we shall be making a snowman soon.

Its nice but i hope it clears up soon as getting around is difficult.By the end of the week would suit me .

Anyway I hope eveyone is ok.

Thanks Dave xx

Sue, would youy like some nore ironing???? How is your poor little dog? Feeling a little better I hope.

Ailsa, big hugs to you today, I hope that it is not overly distressing for you.

Lynne, poor dad, I do hope that things improve for him. These octagenarians are amazing aren't they. You will just have to have your birthday bash a little later.  My daughter is due to have her birthday meal on Sunday but att he momnebnt she is in France. I am hoping that everyone canmake it on the day.

Judi, How dare your computer freeze on you. We need you and can't do without your fine wit. You should write short stories and publish them. I would buy a copy. 

Gayle, Dave well done to you both for getting through the Christmas/New Year period ans surviving it with your lovely boys. You are both truly amazing.

Bren, I didn't realise you were from Canada (although you probably told me already). Where are you situated. I have mnade a brief visit toMontreal, Niagara Falls and Toronto. It was freezing but as I was well wrapped up (I looked like a barage balloon) it was fine. Well done on starting to make a 'different' life for yourself.

Lesley, where is that new baby, I am waiting impatiently to send love,hugs and thanks for his/her safe arrival.

Well here it is very white but at least I am able to get out and about. I have just taken down all my decorations as it is 12th night. I dare not take them down any earlier as I did not want to tempt fate this year. I must go up to my daughter's house soon and take her decs down so that it is all cleared away for her coming home. Mmmmm.............  may have to think about that one as it is a bit more snowy where she is.

Esme, Helen, Fiona, Dot, Amanda and anyone I may not have mentioned, I hope that you are not finding the snow too disruptive.

Have a good day everyone whatever you may be doing.

Love and angel hugs x x x Patricia x x x

Just a quick post from me..... Grandma Lesley! I am shattered, been at hospital since 7pm last night!

Daniel George was born by assisted delivery at 6:20 am, he weighed 7lb 12oz, which was big for my daughter who is only 4"11'. He is healthy and absolutly georgeous. I left the happy family in hospital at lunchtime today.

They had to get an ambulance to their house, as could not get the car out. I must say by 4am this morning, when she had been pushing for over 2 hours, and they said she had to go to theatre, I had to fight to remain normal for her sake. I was so frightened, she was too. The last time we went into the theatre was to see Colin, when he had died.

Anyway a happy outcome this time.  Colin whould have been so proud of her. I could not take my eyes of Daniel, so cute. Now trying to fight sleeping as don't want to be up in middle of night.

Thinking of you too today Ailsa.  xx    Lesley

Look out for FB photos very soon ;-)

Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Lovely news Lesleyxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Got tears in my eyes reading that, Colin would be proud of all of you. Well done to your daughter and to you too xxx Can`t wait to see the photos

Helen xxx

Congratulations Lesley and all your family on the safe arrival of Daniel George.  Ailsa xxxx

Thankyou to everyone who welcomed me onto this forum, I am so glad that christmas and new year are over. I would like to say congratulations to Lesley, new babies always lift spirits. I have been in the garden today with the grandchildren amking snowmen, and my son in law Thomas made a fantastic Snow Angel in my front garden, passers by were amazed and took phots. Alan would have love it today he loved the snow, I just hope he saw it.

Its so hard when I look at photos and think that I won't be seeing him, to just have a hug I would do anything, I feel so lonley even though the kids are always ringing or coming round, but it does not fill the massive hole that is there every day, sorry if I am going on.

Love to everyone

and thankyou for the support

Jacqui xxxx

Hello Jacqui - you are not going on at all.  That is what we are all here for - to help each other with this thing.  My house is quiet right now and I know the loneliness you talk of - we all do.  It is lovely that you have had such a great time with the grandchildren today.  I am home today & tomorrow as it is Chris's birthday today.  I have had to walk to the cemetery as the cars were snowed in.  It took about 3 and a half hours to get there and back but we had lots of fun and as Chris also loved the snow we built him a snowman in front of his headstone.  Like you I am glad christmas and new year have been and gone.  After Chris's birthday today we have Becky's 30th on the 16th.  I really hope that after the 16th there may be a chance to breathe a little.

It is lovely to hear from you again.  Take care.  Ailsa xxx 

Lesley - many, many congratulations on becoming a grandma. Daniel George, welcome to the world;   rest assured your grandad Colin will be looking down on you and filling your little world with love.

Sue xx

Thanks Ailsa, what a day you have had, I brought tears to my eyes to hear that you made a snowman for Chris, our snow angel is Alan. I hope the birthdays go well.

Thanks again take care Jacqui xxx