My husband died in my arms on the 2nd May (2009) - what happens now?

Evening everyone.  I hope you are all doing nice things this evening.  Good luck with your grandson Lynda.  I have just handed mine back after 3 days this week and 2 last week.  Makes me appreciate my own time again.

Thanks everyone for the messages for Toni's job.  I am still so pleased for her.

I have managed to lose another 2.5 lbs on my diet this week so that is me having lost 4lbs now.  Bet I spoil it all in Scotland over the weekend - hey ho!!!

Bren I'm glad you are nice and busy back at work.  I quite like the sound of a support group.  I had the one to one counselling which was good but I would like the more informal group if I could find one.

I got a little bit more done in the garage this evening and got a few of Chris's certificates up on the wall.  I am going out to offer my  M & D some support at the quiz tonight, for all the use I am.  Take care everyone.  Ailsa xxx

Hi, ailsa, lynda, bren and everyone

well, I'm off mixing with royalty tomorrow! OK, not exactly mixing, but going on a tour of Highgrove House gardens, with a group of friends. unfortunately, I fell AGAIN today and can hardly put my foot to the ground - have done the RICE thing and been practising walking with a stick, so should look very elegant if HRH comes out to speak to me. Some hopes!

I started  some voluntary work this week. The local church provides a luncheon club each week for the elderly and i got roped in to helping.  i was given a choice of jobs - shopping on Tuesday morning for the lunches or peeling veg for 40 on a wednesday. Total no-brainer - shopping it is!

hope everyone is as well as they can be

sue xx

Sue - wot?? not spud-bashing???

You and I would make a great pair - can't stand upright for 2 minutes together........

Love and (((hugs)))

Dot xxx

PS - don't fall at His feet tomorrow - you know it will be the most inelegant tumble possible!!!!!  xxx

I'll make it look like a VERY low curtsey!! xx

I hope you are not in too much pain Sue. Hopefully you will enjoy your day. x x x

Love and angel hugs x x x Patricia x x x

Evening All,  Sorry not posted since Mon, my dad getting in a new shower so been helping my sister as we need to knock down a wall to make bathroom bigger. Ailsa say congratulations to your daughter. Looking forward to meeting you Judi and Terri on Sunday. I have a 50th birthday party tomorrow night as well one of my friends so for once a busy weekend. I noticed on facebook someone said that she had enjoyed JE. Gayle how you doing? Dot hope you and Alan have a good holiday.  Well Kim and me have booked for New York in April so something to look forward to. Helen hope you are getting on ok with alarm now it's just a few weeks ago i got a phone call from police to say the alarm was going off at shop at three in the morning  I was very stupid as i went into the shop on my own and it wasn't till i was back out i thought there could have been somebody in there, just as i got out the police arrived, it was a fault though so all sorted now. Well i am off to bed as working in the morning. Sending everybody hugs. Fiona xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx 

Afternoon all xx

To all the penguins meeting this weekend have a fab time!!!

Fiona New York sounds amazing!! Definitely something to look forward to.

Sue you need to be more careful! You re definitely overtaking Lynne at the mo xx Your posh afternoon sounds lovely.

Dottee enjoy your break, you both deserve it.

Bren hope work is going ok, dont know about you but it helps to be back and I am really enjoying it.

I ve been catching up on housework this morning and meeting G for tea later as he is on nights again but we have booked to go to Blackpool next weekend so that s something to look forward to.

Have a good day everyone

Helen xxx

Hi Everyone,

Just wanted to let you know that I am still here and thinking of you all... I've retreated into my shell abit just recently, finding lots of things very difficult to cope with, but I know it will pass eventually.

Hope you are all OK and that Judes is getting on OK with her move to her new house.

Much love to all, Manda xx

hi everyone -- hope everyone has a good weekend  + the weather is kind -- feeling very tired lately but have to keep going tomorrow as I'm b b sitting + it will be a rude awakening at  6 or there abouts -- 1 of u penguin pals said they had suffered with tiredness + infections + viruses -- dont like to keep sitting in the surgery a lot so try + eat fairly healthily + walk a lot  any tips girls -- big hugs xx lynda

Manda these times will pass. It is so hard for you You will start to 'recover' but unfortunately I cannnot tell you when. Climb into the middle of the huddle and we will keep you safe until you feel able to re-emerge x x x

Lynda, there are no magic words re-recurrent infections etc. It is just the body's response to massive emotional trauma. It would seem that in times of stress our immune system takes a knock and we are therefore more prone to infections. Take care hun. Try to get plenty of sleep, plenty of fresh air and eat well. (yeah yeah I hear you say). All this is easy to say but soooo much harder to do. (I certainly do not practice what I preach as regards sleep, but certainly not by choice).

Try to have a good evening. Love and angel hugs x x x Patricia x x x