My husband died in my arms on the 2nd May (2009) - what happens now?

Hi everyone

This working lark is causing havoc with my internet life lol!! Too tired to post! Still enjoying it, had a couple of sticky moments with the damn alarm that I have to switch off in the morning but tomorrow is 3rd time lucky so fingers crossed!!

I ve been off this afternoon again so done a bit of shopping and going to chill tonight. I had bought myself a nice bottle of wine but it fell through the bag...aaarggghhh!!! maybe trying to tell me something???? lol 

Hope you all have a lovely meet at the weekend, not long until London!! Glad Lynne is having fun xx

Lovely and sunny here today, hope Judi`s move has gone ok. She wont read this will she so will have to text her.

Hugs to everyone

Helen xxx

Evening girls

Hope you are all doing OK again after wobbles and stressful times??  ((((((((hugs))))))))) xxxx

Lynne is not the only impulsive one!!!  After Alan's dithering for weeks we've finally booked a farm cottage for a week.  Booking made today............we travel on Friday!!!!!  Only as far as Worcester but it will be nice just to get away on our own for a while........So I've been frantically trying to get washing done and organise things I have to do tomorrow................ Pharmacy.......... hairdresser...... visit family......... packing.......repacking............ collect meds.........pack meds.......... While Alan will blithely sit in a corner sorting out some fishing gear to put in the car - just in case..............Just in case - what??  we find a shark on the motorway???       hhhmmmmmmmm..........  But I'm excited....... ermmmmm - can you tell??

Love and ((((hugs))))) to all

Dot xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hi Alisa

You are getting the right emotions running through your body, we suffer guilt anger, it is very normal.  My husband died on the 9th May from osaphagus cancer.  The suffering he went through was hard to bear, but you will get through it.  I knew my husband was dying but I stayed in denial, I would not accept it so I had a lot of guilt that we didn't have time to say goodbye.

It is very hard, but I just keep saying we have to be strong, they would not want us to break down.  It is very hard for you, especially helping your children grieve as well.  I have had counciling which helped a lot.  Hope you are getting as much support that you need.

Wish you hugs and strength to get through this milestone.  You will in time.

Take care

Kath

Hi.  Thanks very much for your good wishes Kath and also for your good advice.  I hope you are getting a lot of support as well.

It's not long until the weekend now!!  Dot - you and Alan have a lovely time at the cottage.  I haven't even started packing yet for my trip.  I always leave it till the night before as I only end up unpacking again!

It's good to hear that Lynne is having a good holiday.  Helen I hope the alarm thing works for you tomorrow.  Can't believe you lost a whole bottle of valuable wine!!

I hinted a couple of days ago that I had had some good news from my youngest daughter Toni but I couldn't say more at the time.  I can now say that she has a new job and has been accepted onto the funded apprenticeship programme at the college.  I am so pleased for her as she has spent the last 2 years working in an outbound call centre.  We are none of us very nice to cold callers and I know that she has put up with a lot of abuse in the past 2 years.  She has coped very well and really likes the people she has been working with but it is very pressurised.  I was really pleased when she was accepted for the programme but she needed to find a job where the employer was willing to let her only work 4 days a week and do day release to college to work on a business admin course.  The very first employer who spoke to her wanted to take her on and she finally has the offer letter and has handed in her notice at the call centre.  That means I am allowed to speak about it now.  In the video message Chris left for us he mentioned how he hoped she would find what she wanted to do soon but in the meantime he was very proud of her - I think he would be even more proud now she has made it happen.

Right, that is my proud mum moment for today.  I better go and get the ironing done or I will never be ready to go to Glasgow.  Take care everyone.  Ailsa xxx

Oh, Ailsa, that is fab news about Toni- i'm so glad that things are moving in the tight direction for her. 

Her dad will be so proud of her.

sue xx

humph!!  Just lost a post........wanted to say congrats to your daughter Ailsa...........and good luck too......xxxxxxx

tight direction????

I meant RIGHT direction.

Sue xx

Ailsa, I am so pleased for Toni. It is always a joy when one of our kids gets on or gets something they really want. Enjoy the moment Ailsa.  Helen I am poleased to hear that you are enjoying your new post. Gayle, I do hope that you have a good night's sleep. It can be quite debilitating if it goes on for too long.

All those who are meeting up I hope you have a good meet and enjoy the show. Dottee, make the most of your time away. Let us hope the weather holds up for you.

Everyone else, have the best day you can.

Love and angel hugs x x x Patricia x x x

p.s. Fiona, my DIL is doing well. Mother and child are growing nicely x x x

Just wanted to say have a great time at your meets and Dot enjoy your holiday away, you certainly deserve it.  I am a bit overwhelmed with work at the moment but that is normal for school start up in September and will continue for the next month or so.  It is good to be back with people again though.  I am off to dinner tonight with a member of my support group and will start another group with her as well next Thursday for 10 weeks.    That will take me right through the first anniversary so I am really glad as it is helpful for me to have that extra support.

Enjoy your meet and JE

Hi all  -- Enjoy the meet at the weekend, quite envious  -- any plans for down south.or even (middling) Hope the move going well Judi -- good to hear about your daughters job Ailsa + glad to hear u are getting better Gayle -- have a great hol Dot + love + hugs to everyone else -- got the grandson tomorrow so at least that will keep me out of mischief xx lynda