My husband - Chris - died on the 2nd May 2009 because he had anal cancer. He knew he was going and we spoke about lots and lots of things before he died. That is why I am just not prepared for the huge amount of guilt I feel now. I feel guilty that the world hasn't stopped turning round even though he has died. I feel like everything should stop as a mark of respect. I also feel very guilty that he had to be so ill he had to die. What a cruel cruel thing it is to make someone so ill their body just stops working. I wasn't ready for him to go. I really really hope these are normal feelings because I must hang on to my sanity for the sake of my 3 children. I have never known sadness like I feel right now. I can't believe that I will not hear his voice or feel his touch again. We were married for almost 32 years and I have known Chris for 34 years - since I was 16. What happens now? Ailsa
Morning
Lynne have a fab time!!!! Cant wait to see the pics.
Gayle looked like she was having fun too!
Got a few bits done yesterday in town and the bank and called in to see a friend. Stayed in last night. Not going for lunch now as he s working early so to say I m not a happy bunny is an understatement!!! Didnt mind not doing much yesterday with things planned today but now that s all gone. You all know how it is!! I m probably just coming across as sulky again lol!
Hope everyone else has a good Sunday
Helen xxx
Thanks Lynne, got loads I need to do at home but that s not the same is it lol!!! May hit the gym later!!!
Helen xxx
morning all -- the weather has really changed here --wet, cold + windy -- managed to have a quick toddle round the park -- then back in the pushchair ( lots of protests) wished I could curl up in there + whoopee I'm enjoying a cuppa as 1 young man sleeps. Wish I was on my way to Portugal Lynne, hope u have a great time -- hubby + I went to Lisbon for our 40th anniversary -- really enjoyed. Time to see if I can get the veg done while peace reigns -- to all the fellow penguins have a good Sunday -- whens the big move Judi love + hugs to everyone xx lynda
Morning all
Just a very quick post and I am not even going to attemtp to reply to anyone as Rosemary has most definitely got charge of the shared brain cell at the moment - because if I had it I would be further on than I am !! But .... Ailsa please, please, please if I ever move again can I hire you?
Well I am in the middle of the most unbelievable mess and chaos in the house, however not going to panic as by Tuesday night it has to be done .... doesn't it? Even after I thought I had got rid of all the rubbish I have managed to fill four bin bags JUST FROM THE BEDROOM. Oh to be able to go to sleep and wake up in week when it is all don. LOL.
No really, it is fine I am just realising, to an incredible degree, how much I relied on Ed when it came to organisation of 'stuff'. But, if I can do this myself then I think I can manage anything. Which in no small way makes me SO impressed when I read about my wee munchkin Gayle doing it with the boys, and Ailsa doing it .... er how many times with Bex?? ... from one end of the country to the other.
Tomorrow I have to take my gorgeous hounds to the kennels .... for up to six weeks .... REALLY not good. Am not even thinking about that now.
But am thinking and looking forward to seeing Fiona, Ailsa and Teri next weekend - oh you have no idea how that thought is keeping me going!! Will also manage to slip in some lovely time with BOY!! What more could a girl ask for. Ok, no need to answer that one - we all know.
So loads of love to all - I have no idea how often in the next few weeks I will be able to be on, but you KNOW I think about you all and thank you for keeping me sane ...... NO rude comments to that please!
Love Judes xxxxxxx
Hope you have a good holiday Lynne. Good luck with the move Judi. I hope you have a good time in Scotland Ailsa.I hope you enjoyed your trip Gayle.
I hope all the rest of the penguins have a good day and manage to have some laughs.
Love and angel hugs x x x Patricia x x x
Hi everyone,
Had a good time at the concert - Muse were amazing and had a good giggle with my friend although still not feeling brilliant which was a pain but tried to not let it get in the way. Had a bad night last night though and I am so tired today as I didn't sleep a wink even though I was shattered so in need of a penguin cuddle. When are you penguins coming up to Glasgow? Wondered if you would like a little one to join you for dinner/lunch depending on when you are meeting and how long you are about for? Sending hugs to all of you.
Gayle xxx
Gayle ((((((((((((((((((PENGUIN HUG))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) for you. I hope you feel a little better soon.
Love and angel hugs x x x Patricia x x x
Oh, oh, oh - would I not love to see 'a wee penguin' at the weekend. I arrive on Saturday at ..... er wait a minute, have to go and find out where I have packed my tickets ... you thought I was joking, but I really just did go and find them ... anyway I leave Aberdeen at around 12.45 so guess I get in around 2.30 on Saturday and leave at 7.30 Sunday evening. Teri is making her way to the hotel at around 5ish, where I hope Ailsa and I will be enjoying 'a small sherry'. Fiona is arriving at around 11ish on Sunday morning. So you just get your butt over to see me munchkin. We are staying at the Glasgow Pond something or other ... it may be a Best Western ... or I may have just made that up - not sure!!
Love to all, back to my boxes. Judi xxxxxxxx
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