My husband died in my arms on the 2nd May (2009) - what happens now?

Morning everyone.  Gayle I am so glad you went to A & E and got yourself sorted out.  I didn't get time to come on here yesterday but saw on facebook that something had happened.  I am glad you are feeling a little better and make sure you et planty of rest this week so that you can enjoy Manchester at the weekend.

Lynne sorry to hear that your friends sister had this awful thing.  Why are so many doctors so thoughtless.  There really is no excuse for it at all.  It is good that your friend has you - I'm sure you will help keep her spirits up.

Helen have a great day starting your new job today.  You will be great.  How was the concert yesterday?

Sue that was a lovely thing that happened yesterday with the kiss from Alan.  Whatever the reason it happened I can understand why you were shaken afterwards but I think you will come to see it as a lovely experience.  I am still waiting for something to happen where I may see Chris.  I still haven't even seen him in a dream.  I am sure I will when the time is right.  I'm glad you got to the show in time for the best bit with Alan's help.

Rosemary is your FIL more comfortable now he has seen the pain specialist?  I ran out of time last night as I was determined to finish the painting that I wanted to get done.  There is more to do but I have a plan for that after I have been to Scotland to see Judi, Teri & Fiona.  If I had logged on I think I would have been joining you all on the ledge, under the duvet, with the hot chocolate.  Maybe it is the next season creeping up on us that has caused this change in mood.  Whatever it is I am not liking it.

It is lovely and sunny here today.  I have an extra day off as Becky didn't have anyone for Declan today and I can get a few extra bits of the garage done.  I hope everyone else has a good day today.  Take care everyone.  Ailsa xxx 

Dear whyus

so glad to see you posting on this thread but so, so sorry that you need to be here.

As and when you feel able, you will be more than welcome to rant, rave and join in with us. First class support available at all times!

sue xx

Hi all u dear penguins -- been trying to catch up on all your posts but I get so muddled by the time I've read them all, maybe I ought yo get a pen + paper + jot down -- but it totally goes out of my mind. Lovely weather over the weekend -- had the grandson + he ran us ragged + lack of sleep I was like a wet dish rag this morn + had a funeral to go to. Not too bad thank goodness so think I'll sit on the settee with a baileys + relax -- hope those who have had a bad weekend are feeling better + love + hugs to everyone -- must say Sue your post about the kiss sounded wonderful  --I do believe wonderful things like that do happen -- well I will stop the waffling + guzzle the baileys xx lynda

Hi all

I know I 've not been on for ages but I keep informed through FB! I just wanted to let you all know I met a new friend called Malc, he is feeling pretty down just now and I have pointed him towards this site. I know he will be able to find support here if he wants it. He lost his wife of many years last March, so if he comes along please say hello to him.  :-))

Lesley x

I can't tell you where I met Lesley I've been sworn to secrecy on that one! I can tell you that Lesley is a very lovely lady who has pointed me in this direction.

I lost my wife, Bernadette after just shy of 27 years in March 2009 to lung cancer.

Malc.

Dear Malc,

welcome to the thread, although so, so sorry for the reason that you have to be here. Any friend of Lesley's is a friend of ours!

You are more than welcome to rant, rave or just join in the chat on here whenever you feel you would like to. We are a group of very supportive people with one thing unfortunately in common - we have all been widowed due to the evil monster called cancer.  We all have our down times, but incredibly we all have a lot of laughs as well, which is something that we never thought would happen.

sue xx

Evening gilrs and welcome Malc - although as Sue said the reasons for our meeting here are not the happiest.  I'm the odd one out in this huddle of penguins........my hubby is still here - but we've had a very traumatic 3 years to get him back to this stage.  I'm remain here dispensing ((hugs)) and allegedly good commonsense thoughts.......Well so Sue says........ Enough of my blether for now..........

Love and more ((((((hugs)))))))) for everyone......

Dot xxxxxxxxxxxx

Evening All, Welcome Malc sorry to hear about your wife, keep posting and we will all give you the support you need.  I have been posting for awhile now and dread to think where i would be  if i had not found all the lovely friends ( penguins) i have met on here. Gayle hope you are feeling better and are ready to see your favourite band at the weekend. Helen hope your first day went ok. It has been a lovely day here but a nip in the air tonight. Had Charlie in tonight while Kim done some shopping it is so nice to see him he makes me smile something i never thought i would do again. Sue your pics are brill. I have had a friend in tonight for a coffee so passed the night it is a thought the dark nights are looming again. Helen i hope Liam enjoyed Leeds festival Darren said it was good. Well think it's bedtime for me. Sending hugs to you all. Fiona xxxxxxxxxxx       

Morning, penguins

This is the first day of the officially  'redundant' penguin's life - she will keep swimming.

xx

Hi, just dropping by to send hugs to those who need them and encouragement to those embarking on new ventures.

Welcome to Malc. Sorry to hear about your dear wife. I too lost my partner in March 2009 to lung cancer. A wicked and destructive illness. I hope you are points finding some peace in your life. The good people on here will offer love, support and a listening ear to you. Along the way you may also find some laughs.

Gayle I do hope that you are feling a little relief now since the incidents over the week-end.

Lynne,Fiona I hope you and your dad's are feeling reasonably well.

Rosemary, how is FIL and MIL? Such a worry. Oh and how are the wedding plans coming along?

Judi, Gayle are you getting on with your packing? Time is moving on you know.

Sue I was very moved by your description of Alan walking into the room. How lovely for you. I hope it was comforting.

Helen, I wish you all the best for your new job and many happy years in post.

Bren, Lesley, Manda, Lynda, Dave,  Whyus, Teri, Dottee and anyone i may have missed, have the best day you can.

Love and angel hugs x x x Patricia x x x