My husband died in my arms on the 2nd May (2009) - what happens now?

Just a quickie, father in law had sort of good news the scan showed no further spread although they are still not sure about the ribs - surely it is either showing as a problem area or not? - they have given him Oramorph now as nothing else is stopping the pain at all and he is really suffering so they are going to try and get that sorted before they start chemo, maybe in three weeks.  Meantime I was with mother in law and they are going to do a knee replacement for her and as soon as possible, that should be interesting with them both out of action, but at least that will see her sorted in a relatively short time. 

Sorry I haven't caught up with everything (except Lynne I am ALWAYS right, just ask my Sam and Judi HUGS to you and into the middle for a while my love), off to bed in a mo the afternoon was quite long and the in laws must be wiped out if I'm this tired!  Take care dear friends lots of love xxxxxxx

Morning everyone.  I have been having some trouble getting on the internet again in the last 24 hours.  I managed to read some posts yesterday morning but ran out of time and then last night just could not get on at all.  Nive that it is back today.

Grace welcome to our thread.  For all the wrong reasons I know but you are very welcome.  I hope you are doing okay and that you have some family & friends close by.  Take care xxx.

Rosemary I hope there will be photos of your new 'do' soon.  I am so glad the little kitten was found safe & sound.  You sound like you were very tired last night so I hope you have had a decent night.  There is such a lot for your in-laws to take in.  It is so good for them that they have you.  Take care of yourself though as it sounds like there are some demanding times ahead of you.

Helen I love your photos from London - looks like you & Nat had a great time.  Those doughnuts are a great treat aren't they?  Hope you had a good evening last night and you still have another break to look forward to.  Have fun in Manchester this weekend.

Lynne are you in Manchester this weekend as well?  Sounds like you have found yet another way to do too much.  Take care and get some rest - rich from me I know!!  I bet we lot could write a fairly bizarre list of ways to keep yourself impossibly busy so we don't have to think!  We are all at it in our own way - what are we like?

Judi I wish Becky had used a removal company.  Your sound great.  We are off back down to the old house this weekend for another load.  We have 2 more planned before she gets the keys to the new house and then hopefully just one more with a big van for her big furniture as that is all that should be left by then.  Now we have our hotel booked for the JE show in Glasgow I am getting excited about the trip.  I have made some plans to visit family between Monday & Thursday after the show.  We need to arrange where we are going to meet Teri  Fiona on Sunday now.  I'm nowhere near as good at this organising thing as Gayle.

Need to post in case I lose it!!!!

Manda you are meeting in Manchester as well this weekend as well aren't you.  I'm glad you & H had a good holiday.  Sorry it still feels so bad when you get back though.

Sue I loved that picture but sounds a bit like a sledgehammer to crack a nut!!!  Sorry.  Patricia your flowers sound really nice.  Sounds like you should go to the doctor really but I understand what you mean about it being nothing specific that isn't to do with your state of mind.  Just be very careful though.  Have a good think about how your feeling and get to the doctors if there is anything at all you think they can help with.

Bren I bet it was lovely meeting Dan's cousin for lunch.  Have a lovely time in Newfoundland - I think that is where you are now but I forgot to check before I posted so I hope I am right.

Fiona well done getting the wedding outfit. have a lovely time at the wedding.  I got you text - thanks.

Gayle I am glad to hear you are finally relaxing and getting some benefit from your break.  It is soooooo hard to slow down isn't it.  The boys look like they are having a great time.  Ewan's funny though - I think Declan thinks he is some sort of skateboarding genius just because he can stand on the thing!

Well I really should get off to work soon.  I spent last night in IKEA as Stu needed new bedroom furniture and I am the only one with a big enough vehicle to carry it home.  Gave me a chance to look for what I need for the new bathroom though.  take care everyone.  Ailsa xxx

Hi all -- slept like a baby last night after my day with pals in Tenby -- lovely weather for a change. Dont know why that term sleep like a baby as my young grandson doesnt sleep well. Glad to read that u are all having a busy time -- I'm going to get some housework done today as I have the grandson tomorrow + then I'm off to meet a friend on Saturday -- have rail card will travel -- hope everyone has a good day-- love + hugs xxx lynda

Some days are easier to get through than others but none of them are good days. Somehow I find the strength to get through each day and I am sure you will too.

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Hi Everyone - and a warm welcome to our newcomers. So sorry that you have had to join us, but glad that you have found us (((hugs))).

Missed you all while we were away - it's not until I can't get on line that I realise how much I depend on you all! there was internet access on the boat but it was $1 a minute! Have a lot to catch up on...

We had a lovely holiday, the ports were great, the food was great, our room was lovely... We did have our moments but we had some laughs too! I'll sort some photo's out and get them on FB. Got home to find a few problems at work and yet another load of forms from the bloody tax man! You would think it would all be sorted by now. Talk about back down to earth with a bang!

I'm a bit up and down (mostly down to be honest) just now, this time last year we had just been told that Miles had cancer and they were still trying to establish what type. Lots of sad memories to get through between now and the anniversary... One day at a time though eh? Looking forward to seeing a few of us on Saturday, the meets help so much!

Hope you are all ok - am going to go back through everything I've missed and try and retain all the info, but it seems unlikely I will remember it some how - LOL!

Manda xx

Welcome home Manda!  Sounds like a lovely holiday and you have this weekend now to look forward to.  I am just waiting to hear about the taxes, send ours off this week, I should have done them before May 1 but at that time I could not think about it.  I have heard that here in Canada they are a real pain too, wanting more and more forms so my fun with them is about to begin.  I am also very close to where you are as in this time last year, I think we are only a few weeks apart.  Dan was so ill in August and back and forth to doctors and hospital, I am trying not to stop and think about it as I would have a really major meltdown.

Right now I am waiting, the cousin had a crisis at work yesterday which is very common for his job so we didn't go.  I am waiting for the cat to show himself so I can grab him and get him to the vet for boarding.  Then I will wait until later this afternoon to go to Toronto so I can be there when SIL gets home from work.  I think this is the worst, the waiting.  It will be great to have the evening with them, they are the only family of Dan's that I haven't yet seen this summer and I will be at the airport by 6:30 tomorrow morning so hope for a fairly early night.  Then this is my last trip for a little while anyway, I will have to sort out some kind of routine when I get back to work on the 30th. 

I finally had a dream too about Danny, or at least he was in it.  It was actually about my work and people there but Dan was with me like he always was, looking normal and healthy and was just there with me.  It was really nice to have him with me and I didn't want to wake up.

Patricia, do take care of yourself.  I am concerned about you.

love to all

Bren

OUCH!!

My dear penguins, I hope you are all able to get through the sad days by making the most of the good ones. The 'this time last year' memories are so hard to bear and somehow have the inate ability to drag you down

Ailsa, I was also in Ikea last evening. What a coincidence.

Today I have been to Tropical World at Roundhay Park, with my sister and her grand-daughter Lila who is 4 years old. She was lovely to go around with and got soooo excited by all the butterflies and especially loved the bats (strange child).  I have just had my evening meal - a home made fish pie - and soon I shall be heading off for a 'wonderful' night shift. lol. I love it sooooo much I can't wait for morning and hometime lol.

Brenda, I hope you enjoy your trip and have a relaxing time.

Take care dear penguins. Love and angel hugs x x x Patricia x x x

Evening all , Ah Sue what you like , me thinks you;ll probaly feel worse tommorow so i think all the advice you have been given hun you should try and follow through , now i know it wont be easy for you to do as your told but hey shall we make an acception this time ???? Take care xxxxx.

 Ailsa , yes i'm going to manchester on sat , i can't wait , i'm feeling all huggy so get ready girls (((hugs)) at the ready . xx

 Rosemary i'm glad the "news " wasn't bad as you feared , i can only begin to imagine the stress your under at the moment so can you please tale some of your own advice too and take care xxx You know my mind has gone completely blank , not like me at all mmm might be back xxxxx