My husband died in my arms on the 2nd May (2009) - what happens now?

h3>Evening all . Judi i'm still here lol , internet still a bit hit and miss , roll on sunday when my daughter ig going to get the broabband sorted for me . Helen your couple of days sounds great and the photos are really good , Nat is looking more and more like you .. Patricia , thank you for getting me motivated last night , can you believe when you got on your hula i wanted to go running even though i'd decided not too and i did quite a good one last night too but was very stiff this morning , nit sure iof its still from the 8 mile walk on sunday or the run , oh well no pain no gain . Anyway i'll try and post this now and try and get back on later , </h3>
<h3>Hugs to all </h3>
<h3>xxx Lynne xxx</h3>
<h3>&nbsp;Ps has any one heard from Dottee ? </h3>

Interesting cryptic signs on your duplicate post Lynne!  Take it a bit steady on the running my love, don't overdo things, if you have pain it is your body telling you something... ease up!  Tonights Witchdoctor tip, soak in a lovely bubble bath and then massage in some body lotion all over those aching muscles to clear the lactic acid (massage towards the nearest joint (NOT spliff!) and in the direction of the heart) you will find it eases them no end by the morning.  Oh and of course a large Baileys at bedtime to help you reeeeaaalllly relax!

Judi did you find a removals firm? Very sensible idea, the biggest nightmare of moving house once the purchase is sorted.  And have I missed it but how is Kat now?  I bet they enjoyed their stay in the kennels being pampered but loved having their mummy back.

Sam had another dodgy moment today, her little kitten Jack went missing!  They searched everywhere, walked all round the block calling him, rattle his treats and then, just when Sam had given up and gone, gloomily to get fish and chips for their tea, she got back to find Wayne cuddling Jack.  He had changed the bed linen earlier (how amazing is that) and Jack had popped into the draw under the bed and was curled up happily sleeping in amongst the sheets, litle pickle.  So crisis averted and a happy Sam thank goodness.

Had my hair cut today, first time in a year I think it is.  Very nice young man called Ben, although I thnk he fancied himself more than I did, he "lightened it and took away the weight, leaving it free to move and frame my face", ummm yeah, lovely looks ok I guess, certainly a lot better than when I went in.  And I did just take three photo's but actually I looked so scary in them (and one had a double chin cos I was looking down) the flash didn't enhance anything sooooooo you will just have to wonder on the radiance of it all and believe the lovely Ben. :-)))))) 

Who's on holiday now is it just Gayle or has Helen gone too?  I know I just read lots of posts but then mother in law phoned and I lost the plot - well not difficult especially when she has too bless her.  Off to the hospital with her tomorrow and also he goes to his oncologist for the result of the scans, not looking forward to this.  If I regain the plot I will look in again later, meantime lots of love and hugs xxxxxx

Don't you just love it!!!

Sue - that seems slightly extreme doesn't it!!

Rosemary - you beautiful godess you.  What a wonderful job Ben has done ..... who are you to doubt his creative genius!  Well I had the company round this morning to quote for removals and have received the quote by email this evening, it is cheaper than I had expected or budgeted for and is for them packing everything (I did ask "am I allowed to have my breakfast, stand up from the table and just leave and you will do the rest" to which he laughed and replied - certainly!) So I think that sounds like a 'no brainer' to me. 

Thanks for asking, my wonderful Kat is absolutely fine ....... just am thankful I have pet insurance £711 !!!!!  In response to an earlier query Rosemary (which my single brain cell had filed away for a later date) My two get left from 8.30 - 1.00, when I scoot home to give them a wee walk (note the clever use of wee + walk there!) and then again from 1.30 - 5.30.  Initially I was very concerned about leaving them this long each day but was laughingly reassured by the greyhound rescue people that as they sleep and just loll around all that time anyway, and because there are two of them, that is fine.  And certainly they don't seem to mind in the slightest.  Some lunchtimes they hardly lift their heads when I come in ........ mind you they have walked all of a mile in the morning so need about six hours to recouperate from that!

Lynne jsut you listen to our own personal trainer/doctor and don't do too much - I think the bath + massage + Baileys sounds far better for you than the running!

Helen so glad that you trip was so wonderful - my you and Nat packed a lot in didn't you!  Just you wait until you are like the rest of us with those limited holidays!  HAve a great time away with BF xxxx

Manda, squishy squashy hugs hun.  Glad that you and H had a lovely holiday .... it is always cr*p whey you get back isn't it. 

I now can't remember a single thing from the previous page ...... arrggghh. So I will send love to all and everyone and pop back later or tomorrow to refresh my memory/brain.

Judi xx

Welcome back Helen. Don't tire yourself too much before your next jaunts lol.

Brenda, I hope you enjoyu your next trip. Hopefully you will enjpy the more refreshing climate.

Judi, how wonderful to find a firm which does it all for you. Can't you talk them into making breakfast for you too?? or is that just tooooo cheeky.

Rosemary, what a close thing with the cat. They get into the strangest places don't they. Good luck to father in law for his scan results. I hope it is better than expected.

Lynne, as has been said , don't overdo things hun. Today I did a 45 minute walk but not very brisk so probably not that beneficial but it is a start. 

Well this evening I have been wrapping ribbon around some artificial flower stems. One cream rose posy now sports a lilac and cream ribbon round the stems and has a bow with trailing ribbons. a lilac and cream buttonhole has a similar decoration but the ribbon is shorter and narrower. then there are several single cream buttonholes which have also been decorated. I still have a few to do but ran out of ribbon (duh... miscalculated the amount needed and  two more flowers have been added so needed more ribbon anyway).  Bet you really wanted to know that didn't you?? lol.

It is 2am and I am just not tired. I have been feeling really unwell just lately but seem to be feeling a Iittle better at the moment.  I think my friends think I don't want to go out with them because I have declined their offers of nights out on the last two occassions due to feeling less than sociable and generally under the weather. (I am not sure they believe me).  Sorry, I appear to be rambling.

Take care dear penguins and have a good day if you can.

Love and angel hugs x x x Patricia x x x

Hello everyone,

I'm sorry to hear you aren't feeling very well Patricia.  Have you been to the doctor's?  Helen, glad you had a great time in London and hope you enjoy your work today.  Lynne, well done with the jogging and weight loss.  You are very motivated just now which is great.  Rosemary, I hope your FIL gets on okay and will be thinking of you.  Judi, the move company sounds brilliant.  I am going to have to get packing next month and not looking forward to it :-)

Well I am having an okay holiday.  Had a bit of a wobble first couple of days where the kids were acting up because they were tired then I was missing my boyfriend but I spoke to Lynne and she sorted me out (thanks!).  Where would we be without our penguins?

Things are a bit better now but think I just have too much time on my hands doing nothing which I suppose is the whole point of a holiday but I find it difficult to switch off and hate when I start thinking.  I didn't sleep first few nights either but slept last night.  It is 35+ here so very hot so not doing much as its too hot lol.  The resort is lovely although very isolated so can't really go anywhere else unless we get a taxi.  The kids are having a great time and Ewan is now in the water constantly after not liking it before.  He would only go in with me before but I bought him a baby float so there is no stopping him although he nearly got into bother in first day because he decided that because he could swim in the float that meant he could now swim properly.  He went into the water and my dad hadn't noticed him and someone had to fish him out.  He was fine and told my dad he was being a shark!! Think my dad got a bigger fright than him.  he now has a life saver vest on constantly lol. 

Anyway better get back to my sunbathing.  Take care penguins.

Gayle xxxx

Gayle, I do hope that you manage to enjoy your holiday. It is very difficult when you have too much time to think isn't it. I know that is when I fall victim to the overwhelming waves of despair and sadness so I try to keep my brain occupied with other things so that I don't lay myself open to these times. Mmmmm...... afraid it is not working too well att he moment but hey ho, just have to deal with it.  As for going to the doctor's, of course I have not been.  I rarely visit the doctor because most of my inconsequential moans and ailments stem from my emotional instability. I am reluctant to spend my life in the doctor's waiting room unless it is absolutely necessary. 

Rosemary, I hope things are going well with you and your family. Fingers and flippers crossed. Gathering the penguins together to give you a supportive hug.

Have a good day my dear penguin friends.

Love and angel hugs x x x patricia x x x

So sorry to read your message - so similar to what happened to us on 18/09/08. My husband, Arthur, had beenin hospital for nearly 4 weeks, unable to eat, diagnosed on his birthdaY, 09/09/08, WITH METASTATIC PANCREATIC CANCER.  He'd seemed so well just a few weeks before, and had beendown to help our daugter with her new baby. (I retired from work in July; hed already retired.)

The funeral service was a help, and the brass band, in which he'dplayed until a month before he died,aCCOMPANIED THE hymns, and later did a concert for Cancer research.

TheninJuly 2009 I was diagnosed with  metastatic leiomyosarcoma - again with few warning signs  and theonly signs I did notice I attributed to the stress and shock  of Arthur's death, after 43 years together.

Grace R.

Hi xxx

Patricia hope you re feeling better soon, please look after yourself xx

Gayle know exactly what you mean about the thinking time, thats why we re all on automatic pilot 24/7 but we do need to slow done a bit x Hope you enjoy rest of hols.

Judi the removal firm sound fab! When I was a Nanny many years ago lol!! the family got something similar to what you describe and they were great. Did everything!!

Well......dont faint I have been to work today!!! hee hee only 5 hours mind, cant push it lol. In baby room today, had another good day. Off out later with my 2 best friends for a few drinks at our local. Liam is still having fun in Dublin but running out of money by the sound of it. I pick them up from the airport tomorrow night.

Rosemary I m here until Monday then off again lol!!! Your hair sounds lovely, need some pics please!!!

Lynne is your floor all done now?

Right off to do some housework I suppose!! Have a good evening everyone

Helen xxx

Evening all ,Grace so much to cope with in a short time , i do hope you have family round you to help you , keep posting Grace and tell us how you are . Judi , just when you thought you'd escaped another huh , heres another one ((((hug ))))) sorry for monopolising you all day with the hugs but hey i like hugging you , hope you've been ok and i'm still running ..... Gayle , glad you've listened to me lol first time for everything and started to CHILLLLL . You'll be back in the real world soon enough .. The boys look like there having a fine time , i can't wait to meet them ... Patricia  , i'm going to nag you too , GET TO THE DOCTORS  but well done on the walk hun . Rosemary , you are right about my body telling me i'd overdone it lol , i really ached last night , think it was form the walk on sunday and then jogging monday when i was still stiff ,but i didn;t go last night and have felt better today so hopefully going later . Hope Sam is ok now , how did your FIL get on , i hope the news isn't to bad (praying its not to bad ) . Helen , hope your enjoying your drinks with the girls now , not long till sat , yippeee . Fiona , how is your dad , mine is just the same , he has his other op on tues but not sure exactly what they are doing , i dont think they know either .

 Take care all

xxxLynne xxxx