My husband died in my arms on the 2nd May (2009) - what happens now?

Evening all and big hugs to all that need them xxxx

Ailsa  hope your building work is going along nicely now , and yes my kitchen building work is done but i still need to decorate and get new blinds and floor covering so looking forward to starting on all that when i get chance lol .

 NO Helen i wont be tee total in prep for the race but i will stay in tommorow night (maybe lol ) I dont thonk the memory stick will show up now as i've practically demolished the house looking for it , i know where i keep it thats the annoying thing but its now the end of the world and like Ailsa says , even of the lap top is dead some one shpuld be able to help me get the data out of it so i'm no tot concerned yet but i'm just annoyed at my self for misplacing something which means so much to me .i Honestly think that its got thrown away whilst ive been sorting things out .

Dad seems a little better today and i just wish he'd been a little better last sat and he would have come and said hello to you all but he really wasn't up to it . Enjoy your friday evening all

Take care xx

Lynne xxx

Gosh, everyone is so busy.  Ailsa it is good to hear that things are well under way with your project. I am sure it will look fab when it is done.

Helen I hope you have a lovely weekend.

Lynne, I am sure you will get your data off the old computer. It is good to hear that your dad feels a little better.

Bren, such a long drive. Wow. It will all be worth it in the end though.

Dot.  Flippers are stretching as far as possible....... Just need to lean a bit further in......

Going out for lunch onSunday as the kids seem to want to celebrate my birthday. Ah well. I am sure it will be lovely.

Take care everyone and have the best evening you can.

Love and angel hugs x x x Patricia x x x

Evening, all

Well, as Patricia says, what a busy lo you are! I hope that gayle enjoys her TITP, and doesn't get too wet. my daughter went to one of the wettest Glastonbury festivals some years back, and ended up wearing a fetching pair of binbags on her legs. They did the trick, but a fashion statement it was not!

Lynne, hun, I know it's a bit obvious, but have you checked your hoover bag for the memory stick? Maddie's toybox?  My memory stick has gone down the side of the armchair, but as it only has schoolstuff on it i couldn't care less.It can stay where it is, as I don't intend using it again.

New kitchens.... new building work..... selling houses......holidays...... WILL YOU LOT PLEASE SLOW DOWN. You are making me feel totally inadequate - actually, I am totally inadequate, so no change there! i am going to decorate my downstairs cloakroom soon (ish)  ...perhaps...

Lynne, I really hope your dad manages to feel a little better - i feel so very sorry for him, and for your family. enough is enough.

hang on in there, Rosemary - hope things calm down with mil and fil, and that his treatment brings him relief.

teri, I am so sorry that you are having such a hard time with your family. No words of wisdom that you haven't already heard - just be there for them.

Well, i have no plans whatsoever for the weekend , but maybe a little retail therapy may be essential for my wellbeing - who knows? 10 more days to work, then I join the ranks of the unemployed.  Think I might set up a justgiving page.....

have a good weekend, my friends

Sue xx

Sue, ((((((((Hugs)))))))))  for you. Firstly let me say you are NOT inadequate. You are a lovely caring person who has been dealt a rough hand. Secondly, try to enjoy some of this lovely weather and give yourself time to recharge your batteries. Maybe then you will be able to think about your next move.

Love and angel hugs x x x Patricia x x x

p.s. Rosemary, I hope you and the family are ok this evening. difficult events for you.x x x x

Thanks Sue , i've tried the kids toy boxes and the sofas but i can't get my hands down far enough , need the lads to tip them up , you know what will happen if i get my hands down them !!! . I havn't tried the hoover bag yet , that is a thought , thats my next job lol . Sue you are a amazing lady and i'm not hearing of you saying different . xxxx As one door closes another one will open .. xx Patricia have a lovely meal with your family hun xxxxxx

Waving to you all, my dear and lovely penguins.  Coming through the first "shock stage" now and just knowing that we go into "cope mode" from here on in, again selfishly, it will be a little easier as I'm not the one directly there and having to cope 24/7 as it was with Steve (which of course I wouldn't have wanted any other way) so hopefully that means I can be stronger and more help to mother and sister in law when they need me. Totally melting here it is so hot and humid, think I will be sleeping on top of the duvet tonight, if sleep happens at all, what with rining in my ear still (it is actually getting a bit better though and I have an appointment with a nurse and a syringe on Monday. To which my "friend" said, ooh that'll make you feel sick - thank you friend but I.ve had it done before and was fine) and the heat upstairs I think it would be easier to sleep downstairs on the sofa.  Anyway, hope you are all ok and can also get some sleep, lots of love, no actual hugs it's too hot but if anyone needs one then we'll jump in the pool and have a soggy wet, cool one shall we, like real penguins! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Bring it on !

Sue make the most of your time off and who knows what is round the corner? Funnily enough I have just picked up an application form for another job. More money but less hols!! Oh no, how will I cope lol!! Know the girl who is leaving the job and she has put good word in so will give it a go!!

Patricia hope you have a lovely meal xx

Hope everyone sleeps well tonight xxx

Love the idea of the pool Rosemary.

As usual Sue the perfect picture.

Good luck with  job application Helen x

Love and angel hugs x x x patricia x  x x

Evening everyone.  Well done Bren doing the long drive to Montreal.  I hope you can get some rest ow before the drive to Gaspe.  it sounds really warm there if it is too hot to take puppy a walk.  I is very warm & humid here as well.

The builders are back tomorrow but hopefully they will finish.  It is wierd being able to get into the garage without going outside.  Chris would have been finding every reason to use the new doorway!

Helen - looking at new job!  Good luck with it but how will you cope with fewer hols?  Enjoy your relaxing weekend.  I am at the hairdressers at 9 tomorrow and then back for the builders.  If they get finished for lunchtime I am doing some retail therapy and then gardening at youngest daughter - Toni's house.  On Sunday Bex, Dex & I are going exploring round where they want to live and then bbq at mum & dad's.

Patricia have a lovely birthday lunch on Sunday - you deserve it.  It is lovely that the kids wan to spoil you a bit xx

Sue there is no way you are inadequate.  You have the best idea as I find all this constant work very stressful but don't seem to be able to stop.  You have posted some lovely pictures to cheer us all up and you are so wonderfully supportive.

Rosemary I am glad for you that the initial shock has worn off a little.  You have already proved you can cope so just make sure you look after yourself as it can all get out of hand if you are not careful.  It is so hot here as well that cool, soggy hugs sound appealing.  Take care.  I hope everyone has a good weekend.  Ailsa xxx