My husband died in my arms on the 2nd May (2009) - what happens now?

Good morning. The box look is a good one Kaz! It saves on hair and make-up time but probably won't work on dodging customers condolences. If you are beginning to wander whether the time is right to go back to work it probably means the time is right to give it a go. I don't think there is anyway to avoid the first couple of weeks of people telling you how sorry they are for your loss and also those who just don't know what to say to you. I decided that for me at least it was better faced up to as it wasn't going to go away and would not get any easier for putting off. I even think it has the potential to get more difficult to face the longer we put it off. I think you need to be certain you have dealt with most of the paperwork first because that would be very difficult to do and go to work but after that is done give serious thought to going back to work. See if you can do reduced hours or, better still, come and go as you need to in the first couple of weeks. Good luck whatever you decide is right for you Kaz.
The weather is not good here again today so Declan and I are putting off Diggerland until tomorrow. We are going bowling this afternoon. Have a good day everyone. Ailsa xx

Kaz- go for the work thing, but take the box with you. How's that for a compromise? love the pic. We're all rooting for you.
Helen, glad you got some sleep last night. Those 'miss you nights' are the worst, aren't they -never- ending. glad to hear that someone else does the same thing as soon as she sits in front of her GP! (not really glad, but you know what I mean!) (I hope!) i'm OK as long as no-one is too nice to me, which sounds stupid, but it's how it is.
shouldn't you be packing?

Sue x

Morning Helen - I like the 'team' idea as well. When do you go on holiday? Morning Sue - everytime I start a post on here another one pops up - I can't keep up - slow typing! I didn't cry when I went to my GP but he isn't really the kind of person who I would want to cry in front of - I think he would be embarrassed. He asked me how I was but I think it was a routine question rather than one he wanted a deep answer to. Looks like the rain has gone off so I will get off and drill some holes! Ailsa xx

Yeah I know what you mean Sue, nice to hear someone else is the same!!! It is true, I`m ok until someone really asks how are you?? and wants an answer. You doubt yourself though then don`t you? Am I ok? Am I coping if I cry like that?

Ailsa we go on Sunday, usually packed weeks before, need to get myself moving!!! Love the pic Sue ha ha!!

What holes are you drilling?

Helen xxx

morning, Ailsa
You're brave, drilling holes! my family have forbidden me to use the electric drill but i have every intention of having a go! When (if) it ever stops raining I'm going to take the drill and a piece of wood into the garden and practise.

I've already cracked the electric hedge trimmer -that was most therapeutic.

Right hopefully this will be me...ready to go.....trying to put a pic on but I can`t :)

Hi Helen. If it is a photo of you you are trying to load you need to put it somewhere on the internet first (learned from Sue!). Facebook works - load it onto facebook and then copy and paste into your message on here. If it is a pic/cartoon you need to copy and paste one from the internet (google images works). Good luck. Ailsa xx

Aaah, trying but it won`t paste!!!

are you doing it by right clicking the mouse or by using control+c for copy, Control + v for paste?

Well team I made a right "pigs ear" of that, its true as soon as somebody is nice to you it all goes pear shaped...Not going back to work yet!!!
Thats what happens when the Doctor actually cares about the patient. NHS got a lot to answer for..
fed up kaz xx