My husband - Chris - died on the 2nd May 2009 because he had anal cancer. He knew he was going and we spoke about lots and lots of things before he died. That is why I am just not prepared for the huge amount of guilt I feel now. I feel guilty that the world hasn't stopped turning round even though he has died. I feel like everything should stop as a mark of respect. I also feel very guilty that he had to be so ill he had to die. What a cruel cruel thing it is to make someone so ill their body just stops working. I wasn't ready for him to go. I really really hope these are normal feelings because I must hang on to my sanity for the sake of my 3 children. I have never known sadness like I feel right now. I can't believe that I will not hear his voice or feel his touch again. We were married for almost 32 years and I have known Chris for 34 years - since I was 16. What happens now? Ailsa
Hello everyone,
Patricia - the wedding sounded fantastic and you did so well. I especially loved the part about the watch - must have been a very moving and touching moment. So proud of you going to the rememberance service too - that must have been very hard but you were very brave. I too can't wait to see the pics - want to see that cake!
As Lynne said we are now booked up to go to Manchester and can't wait!!! And there is a Harvey Nics in Manchester too woohoo!
Hugs to you Ailsa and hope you are feeling a bit better and that your cold isn't coming to anything. Helen, hope you are enjoying your holiday!
I am feeling not bad the past couple of days and thanks for all the words of encouragement - don't know what I would do without you all.
Hope you are all having an ok day.
Gayle xx
I wish I was independently wealthy. I would love to go to John Edward with you in beautiful Scotland. He is so amazing. Unfortunately June and September are not months I can be away from work. Maybe next time, he will be there during the summer and I can join you.
Hi all, hope you are all doing well tonight, despite the lousy weather (it's been tipping with rain most of the day here). Bren one day we will get you over here, or we'll all make it your way! Ailsa, take plenty of vitamin C and give yourself lots of tlc and get to the middle of the huddle asap. Lynne how's your dad, would he like a little snuggle in the huddle? You can bring him in if you like then you both get a bit of comfort, I can just imagine the twinkle in his eye surrounded by lots of ladies (well penguins might make him wonder about his daughter!). Judi how's work going? Love the strange workngs of the comings and goings of the staff with the mad professor, how funny and it's so nice that you can keep in touch and still be friends with him.
Patricia the account of the wedding was amazing, what a wonderful time you all had (I can only hope to do half as well next year), a time to remember for Stuart to be sure and he must have been so proud of you, as was Ray watching you as always. Second vote for some pics, but I know you want to check with Stuart first, but can we see you and the cake? Hope you are having an amazing time in the land of the rising sun, although you must be so tired you would probably like to set the sun and have a good long sleep! Look forward to hearing all about it in due course.
As you know I did an Angel Card reading for Lynne, which she was very pleased about. They can be spookily accurate and very interesting, so if anyone would like to p.m me with any questions they would like to ask the angels (obs, future, anything really) then I can ask the angels to answer and see what delights they come up with - yoga and exercise for Lynne! Have you started it yet Lynne?? Hee hee.
Hi all
I am only asking questions if you PROMISE no yoga or exercise Rosemary!!
Well I was going to post a massive complaint about how unbelieveably cold/sleety/snowy/windy and generally miserable it is here today and get sympathy from everyone and then I saw on FaceBook that poor Gayle has no power ..... arrrrggghhh so that made me shut up (not really!) as I can't imagine how cold and horrid that would be. And then I really supassed myself with my own stupidity because I suddenly thought - "Oh no, poor Gayle, how on earth will she cope without her computer ...... er Doh Judi!!!! Sorry, you read about her having no power on FACEBOOK ... you idjeet!
But in fact I have had a few tears tonight. I phoned my Dad at 6 and told him on no account was he to even attempt to drive the 400 miles to come up for the weekend as there is 18 inches of snow predicted for some of the route they would take. I kept it together when talking to him and mum, cos it would be totally foolhardy for them to even think about it and we have agreed that they will come up in the middle of April instead (bloody global warming permitting) But after our plans to meet at New Year were scuppered because of snow - it is now nearly eight months since they were here - I came off the phone, wrapped up in forty seven layers and was blown round the block with the dogs with tears streaming down my face at the unfairness of it all. But don't worry, was just feeling sorry for myself and am absolutely fine now with normal service having resumed.
Bren - some day, somewhere (West Side Story was always my favourite musical) we will all meet, don't you worry.
Lynne - have you passed on the invite to your dad?? What a lovely idea Rosemary - I agree, I think it would make him smile (((( )))).
Am quite tired tonight and had to type up a huge report at work today so will stop now before my fingers fall off!
Night night my little Pingus - Judi xxxxx
Sorry had to abruptly leave you, Daniel plonked down beside me (which was lovely as don't seem to see much of him these days and he still 'lives' here at the moment!), then he wanted to use my computer so I shut down the Mac site.
Well as you know Sam is engaged, since then we have viewed and booked a venue - for 120 people plus evening guests! That means actually having to cut back on people and upset a few I'm sure, but so be it, all that will cost an arm, a leg and several extra toes. Sam has decided against a church wedding as they have a beautiful gazebo in the garden, weather permitting and if it isn't then the room indoors can be dressed up beautifully. Timingwise it makes sense too so the ceremony will be at 1 o'clock and then it all flows on from there with the evening reception beginning at 7.30 til 11.30 and the bride and groom stay in the bridal suite at the hotel. My sister knows a lovely girl who does dog and house sitting so hopefully she will be able to come and look after the boys for the day, Sam was already stressing about the thought of them in kennels for two nights.
So we had barely got through sorting the venue and looking round the hotel with Sam, Wayne and his aunty Claire (she is really nice but hard work and there are some worrying bits too), when Sam and Wayne then went off to view a couple of houses in the village. Low and behold Sam falls in love with the first one they saw and wanted to buy it. I tried to reason with her and get her to look at others, talk about a brick wall, closed door, she just didn't want to know. Anyway today I agreed to go and look at the house as it is a good size for the price range they can afford, it is absolutely lovely inside, a brand new kitchen and bathroom (well very new) and although not the best of area's to live it isn't as bad as I remember from when we lived near there so having asked our lovely builder man to come with us and assess the place (far better than a surveyor) I agreed she could make an offer. Which was accepted. So off we go again with another lot of legal stuff to sort out, maybe someone somewhere thought I didn't have enough going on at the moment. All this and she hasn't started her course yet!
Anyway I shall leave you properly now and stop rambling on. Lots of love and hugs to you all, see you in the morning xxxxxx
Aaagh missed your posts whilst I was prattling on!
Lynne you can do yoga with a dodgy ankle and a dodgy knee! Get your mat out girl lol!
Judi hugest squishy hugs, bloody weather! And I can't promise no yoga or exercise but shall I just not tell you if that card comes up?
More hugs xxxxxx
Okay, fingers falling off or not I can't not say "Bl**dy H**l - Samantha is impressive!!! I take off my hat (and we all know how I feel about my hats) to her. Bowing in awe. You will need smelling salts to bring you round it things carry on at this pace Rosemary!!.
Huge calming hugs to you - Judes xxxx
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