My husband died in my arms on the 2nd May (2009) - what happens now?

Awww Helen, how lovely that Liam worries about you...xx. I had realised last week that it was mother's day, but I talked to H and she said she didn't mind one bit. As you said Lynne, we'll be home at some point... Esme your 'heavies' really look the part!

Judi, Hope that you have got through today OK - have been thinking of you lots. xx

Lynne - don't climb over the wall! No wonder you are worrying, but I think Sue's suggestion is bang on... Hope it is everything you were hoping for when you get there in the morning. xx

Lesley, you haven't mentioned your wrist in a while - hope that means it's feeling much better! xx

Patricia, Gayle and everyone else, hope you have all had a reasonable day. It's rained loads here today and it seems as though it hasn't actually got light at all... Doesn't help you to feel any better does it? Forgot to tell you last night, but I have managed to get some tickets to go and see John Edward in a few months time - something good for me to look forward to after our meet! We haven't had a countdown on the number of sleeps for a while, I'd better go and get the calendar!

Much love, Manda. xx

Well done, our Lynne.

knew your boss would be sympathetic towards you - she knows a good'un when she sees it!!

xxx

Awww Lynne - that is rubbish news after you waiting all that time and the mucking about they have been doing.  Glad your boss is taking you over tomorrow and you can get it all sorted the way you want it.  I am sure it will be beautiful.

Judi - hope you are doing okay?

Helen - glad to hear you sorted things out with Liam.  It must be really hard looking after two teenagers but like you say you need to build a new life too.

Sue - loved the story about Lucky.  Had to read it a couple of times as I thought you had said he brought the dead goldfish to school in a bag lol!

I was wondering about Mothers day the other day there and then forgot to check.  It doesn't bother me as I didn't celebrate it last year.  My kids are too little so Wully always bought flowers and stuff from them and last year he was in the hospice so it wasn't nice then.  Would rather just forget about it again this year although obviously I will need to get my own mum something but she knows too that I am not really into celebrating it.  We shouldn't be too late back either as I reckon the check out time will be noon probably anyway?

Had another moochy day today and even went back to my bed for an hour!  Finally started hoovering at 6pm but yet again I have paused lol.  Just away to change my bed then do the wii fit again - getting quite into it now!  Back to work tomorrow and I have 75 emails already to answer :-(  Hope my motivation comes back tomorrow then.

Huge hugs to everyone.

Gayle xx

Lynne we must have posted at same time and I missed yours. Glad you ve sorted tomorrow out xxx

My 2 are fine about me being back later on Mothers Day, will just need to see Paul`s mum at some stage on Paul`s behalf as it will obviously be hard for her xxx

Helen xxx

Lynne, that is so typical of the way things happen these days. I am sure that your boss would understand if you let her know why you are going to be late in. Please don't stress all night over it. I hope that the things around the cross have been left in tidy order.

Love and aqngel hugs x x x Patricia x x x

Thanks Ladies , you've calmed me down as usual . Gayle putting me to shame with the wii fit , mine hasn't been out for about 8 months now , must dust it off maybe tommorow lol .Take care Lynnexxxxxx

Oops so many posts since I started to do my last one. Glad you are sorted for tomorrow Lynne.

x x x Patricia x x x

Hi guys

Thank you all SO much, I felt so loved and cared for all day that it really was okay.  Yes a few tears, but mostly with a smile, I managed to think of what a wonderful, fun day it had been.  It was arranged in 15 days flat ........ wedding planners - who needs 'em! ....... and as a consequence was a small,  VERY select but riotous group of twenty-one and was an absolute hoot.  See, I am even smiling as I think about it.

Three pages of posts, my brain cell can't cope with that.  I was in stitches about 'Lucky' Sue, and Helen - the dangers of meeting 'strangers' had not even crossed my mind, but I LOVE the fact that Liam was so concerned ........ at least until he went out with Nat ...... I think he may be related to Boy!

Lynne, tomorrow will be fine hun, in fact, as ususal it has probably turned out as it was meant to be, because I agree - arriving without knowing it was there may well have been a shock.  Make sure you have a clean shirt on - ok!

Gayle, stop with the wii fit would you .... or I will start calling you Helen - and let me tell you I think one Helen is enough!!!! lol.   Manda, very jealous of your getting tickets for John Edwards. 

I hadn't taken on board that it was Mothers' Day either, Boy will just be glad that I am with friends (lets him of the hook!!) and as I am meeting up with my mum and dad the weekend before - we are all going to Glasgow for the weekend - it means I can treat her then and be the 'golden girl' teehee.  We are going as it is Boy's 21 on 15 Feb, party on 20 Feb, so this will be a sedate, nana and gramps style of celebration rather than the 'rammie' (this may well be a Scottish word - it means hell of a party) that will happen here on 20 Feb - no NOT in my house. 

Still got snow and ice here at the moment - the pink wellies were on today.  You guys are going to get such a shock if I stroll in to the hotel in my wellies, my hat and a penguin suit.

Loads and loads of love to you all - and thanks again - amazing how this group of FB 'strangers' can make such a difference! Judi xxxxx

Hi everyone.  For the record Manda - it is 39 sleeps until our get together!  I'm glad you sorted things out with Liam Helen.  As no-one is at home anymore from my little brrod they don't tend to notice my comings and goings on a day to day basis.  I can be on the internet when I want.  Like you Lesley, I miss someone knowing where I am most of the time.  Chris & I spoke on the phone many times a day and also sent each other texts.  My kids haven't expressed any concerns about me meeting up with you all in Newcastle so I don't know whether it bothers them or not.  They also haven't said anything to me about it being Mothers Day.  I had spotted it - sorry for not mentioning it - but it won't be a problem for me because as several people have pointed out already, we will be home sometime on the day so I can sort out my mum's flowers later in the day.

Sue - the sad tale of Lucky had me in stitches.  Lynne I am so glad you have sorted out with your boss to be able to visit the cemetery and see the headstone without having to wait all day.  It should be a good occasion but I know how stressed I was getting about getting Chris's right and how frustrated I felt when it was put off for a fortnight.  Do you know that to this day the council have still not told me the bench is in place!  I know it is there but they have never told me and I was told by someone when I rang to see whn it was going to be put in place that they like to check everything has been done before informing the family.  I know it was done in early November so I wander whn they are going to tell me!!  I am sure everything will be fine when you get there tomorrow and you will be able to make your own alterations and put things just where you want them to be.

I really hope everyone is okay but I am going to have to cut this post short (lol) again.  I had 2 friends from work here tonight to watch a DVD and they have only been gone half an hour.  I need to get some sleep for work tomorrow.  Chris's van was back here this evening as the friend who bought it brought the rest of the money round.  He seems to be enjoying driving it.  I was glad to see it again but it was a bit upsetting as well.

I will have more time tomorrow evening to catch up.  Take care everyone.  Ailsa xxx

Evening All,  Judi hope you have managed to get  through today lots of hugs.  I had realised it was mother's day on the Sunday of our meet but ok for me as  well, i can see Kim when i get back. Helen i understand also about what Paul was saying because Kim did say to me as well about it and as you say what would we be sayin if it was them that was doing it. As i sayed to Kim  i feel as if you have all been friends to me in the last year and can't wait to meet you all. Talking about remembering things here's one for you i landed into work this morning and was not meant to be there till 12.30. Lynne i hope you manage to sleep tonight and you manage to get to cemmy in the morning. I was still waken this morning at 3 so ended up taken a tablet and i finally fell asleep after that. More sad news for me today my next door neighbours girl had a baby she was born the day Derek died, so she was just one in Dec died yesterday she had something wrong with her kidneys poor wee soul. Well it's Kim's birthday tomorrow so hope she is ok. Not heard any more from Darren but he is going to phone Kim tomorrow so we will see how the job hunting is going now. Hope everyone else is doing ok? Well i am off to bed and hope sleep better tonight. Luv and Hugs to you all.

Fiona xxxxx