My husband - Chris - died on the 2nd May 2009 because he had anal cancer. He knew he was going and we spoke about lots and lots of things before he died. That is why I am just not prepared for the huge amount of guilt I feel now. I feel guilty that the world hasn't stopped turning round even though he has died. I feel like everything should stop as a mark of respect. I also feel very guilty that he had to be so ill he had to die. What a cruel cruel thing it is to make someone so ill their body just stops working. I wasn't ready for him to go. I really really hope these are normal feelings because I must hang on to my sanity for the sake of my 3 children. I have never known sadness like I feel right now. I can't believe that I will not hear his voice or feel his touch again. We were married for almost 32 years and I have known Chris for 34 years - since I was 16. What happens now? Ailsa
helen, love, for what it's worth, i think you've handled liam's issues brilliantly - i take my hat off to you. You don't need an instruction book - just follow your instincts and you won't go far wrong.
sue xx
Sue, thank you for that little story, it made me laugh too. How on earth did you manage to keep yourself together? Childrena re so funny at times aren't they. RIP Lucky x x
Helen, a little bit of role reversal there I see. How true though that we would freak out if our kids were meeting with what are effectively 'total strangers'. I hope you have a 'back up' plan for contacting your children to let them know you are safe. It must be hard for both you and your children coping with your new altered situation. I hope that your revised plan to have family time works for you all. I feel sure it will.
Judi, I hope that your day is going reasonably well x x
Love and angel hugs x x x Patricia x x x
Lol Helen, I had a right go at my daughter a few years ago when she said she was going to meet a FB friend in Sheffield, she didn't go in the end. She has recently reminded me of this but I think it would have to be a very elaborate scam for so many of us to make up FB pages and friends don't you? Anyway I don't know about you but it feels nice to have people who worry about me, it means they care I think it is one of the things I miss most about Colin not being here, you know, being able to come and go and no-one knowing where I am or what I am doing at any given moment, I used to like him knowing where I was and knowing where he was too.
It is so hard to rebuild our shattered lives isn't it?
I hope Liam feels a little less worried now, he can always call me and check me out!!
Love and Hugs Lesley xx
dear lynne
Calm down.
can you ring your boss, explain, and go in to work a bit later tomorrow?
Just repeat your threat to climb over the wall - she'll just say for god's sake, lynne, come in late tomorrow!
Take care
Sue xx
Thought I should send along Daniel and his work mates to keep an eye on things in Newcastle, you should all be safe then, they don't stand no nonsense!
Hugs Lynne, do as Aunty Sue said, hope everything is as you want it. xxxxx
Oh no! We've lost three of the heavies - must have been too big for the upload.
Lynne, hope you sort something out xxx But do calm down, sure you will xxx
Sue thanks for your encouragement xx
Lesley thats exactly what I said about making up facebook accounts etc lol and yes it is nice to have people thinking about you through the day xx
Liam seems better now and him and Nat are going out as usual lol!! Things dont really change for long in their lives do they?
Rosemary I m sure we would be perfectly safe with them around, can we hire them lol xx
Helen xxx
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