My husband died in my arms on the 2nd May (2009) - what happens now?

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My husband - Chris - died on the 2nd May 2009 because he had anal cancer. He knew he was going and we spoke about lots and lots of things before he died. That is why I am just not prepared for the huge amount of guilt I feel now. I feel guilty that the world hasn't stopped turning round even though he has died. I feel like everything should stop as a mark of respect. I also feel very guilty that he had to be so ill he had to die. What a cruel cruel thing it is to make someone so ill their body just stops working. I wasn't ready for him to go. I really really hope these are normal feelings because I must hang on to my sanity for the sake of my 3 children. I have never known sadness like I feel right now. I can't believe that I will not hear his voice or feel his touch again. We were married for almost 32 years and I have known Chris for 34 years - since I was 16. What happens now? Ailsa

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    Hi all

    Helen, that match was great, on the way up there we sat opposite 2 liverpool fans and we didn't stop talking until we got to Cardiff, great fans. On the way back the Liverpool fans were really quiet and all the West Ham fans were shouting "if you don't want the cup we'll have it" it was all said in good spirit and everyone was laughing.

    Cars, try not to buy a car on your own because as you know someone on their own and doesn't know too much about cars are the sort of person the car dealers love. Take someone who knows about cars Helen maybe one of Paul's friends with you. Whatever car you like do some research on it on line (what car) and try and stick to that model and don't be talked into a car you know nothing about and stick to your budget. I know a little bit about cars so if you want my advice please ask. Buy a book in W H Smiths called Glasses it tells you how much the car is worth to the public, trade and how much the trade make and pay for that model, also the mileage and year play a vital roll.

    Take care everyone and I still have my party hat on.

    Kev xx
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    i think kev ought to host tonight's bash, as he missed out last night. He's a good cook so perhaps he'd like to do the catering as well!

    Cheers, kev! we're on our way!
    sue x
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    Can i come so fed up tonight (just for a change ) i'll bring beer xxxxxxxxxxxx
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    of course, more than welcome
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    Hi

    Fancy dress party tonight and the theme is "Film Stars".

    I've got a wooden leg, bandana, loads of make up on, a beard, white fluffy shirt, beads in my hair, sword, and some old bloke from Rock plays my dad, oh yeah and a gun in belt!! Bring your own Rum.

    Kev xx
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    Sounds most attractive, kev - specially the wooden leg!
    This is what i shall look like (yeh, right!!)
    sue x
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    Well i want to be a fairy princess and i want to grant wishes , everybody knows what we would wish for so as i cant do that i'll come as snow white (i like long floaty dresses can you tell )See full size image
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    but with my height i'd make a better dwarf xx
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    I would paste a picture but I can't seem to, I use a mac and it doesn't copy and paste or drag!!

    There is loads of food so come on tuck in, and who put that whole bottle of Vodka in the punch??
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    Which one would you be?