My husband - Chris - died on the 2nd May 2009 because he had anal cancer. He knew he was going and we spoke about lots and lots of things before he died. That is why I am just not prepared for the huge amount of guilt I feel now. I feel guilty that the world hasn't stopped turning round even though he has died. I feel like everything should stop as a mark of respect. I also feel very guilty that he had to be so ill he had to die. What a cruel cruel thing it is to make someone so ill their body just stops working. I wasn't ready for him to go. I really really hope these are normal feelings because I must hang on to my sanity for the sake of my 3 children. I have never known sadness like I feel right now. I can't believe that I will not hear his voice or feel his touch again. We were married for almost 32 years and I have known Chris for 34 years - since I was 16. What happens now? Ailsa
Hi everyone it'sme AGAIN. Can't stay away now. lol
Helen, glad you managed to get some enjoyment out of the celebrations.
Lynne, I hope that you feel a little better for your birthday. A golf ball can seem enormous when it is in your mouth (take it out NOW). Seriously, I am sure it must feel terrible and hope that the painkillers are having some effect. If not let me know and I will come and stamp on your toe to take your mind of your mouth hehehe. Wicked eh??? lol
Got to work again tonight so may not see you again until tomorrow (if you are very lucky lol).
Oh dear I seem to be in a silly mood. Soooooo.... I will stay on the outer edge of the penguin huddle and wrap you all in my protective arms x x x
Love and angel hugs x x x Patricia x x x
Sounds good, lynne.
not too many chocolates, now - save some for me!!!
Just you take care.
sue xxx
Evening all - just popping by to send you all love and (((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))) and best wishes for 2010..............Love and more (((((((hugs)))))))) Dot xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Good evening everyone. Well, like the rest of you, I made it through last night in one piece. I was up until 3:30am - that is how long it took for my family to go home! We had a nice time. Played Beatles rockband on the wii for a lot of the night. I drank a toast to all you lovely people at midnight then we set my last 3 sky candles off. There were lots of fireworks last night but there were also lots of sky candles going up as well. They are definately popular right now.
Lynne - so sorry to read about your poor swollen mouth. I hope you can get on some antibiotics very soon. I will be thinking about you tomorrow.
Patricia I hope you have a decent shift today.
I made a few resolutions and most of them are to do with moving forward positively as I know Chris would not want me to be as sad as I am right now. None of our better halves would want that for us. Like Helen I feel like I need to find some things to look forward to now that the last couple of very difficult weeks are behind us. It is Chris's birthday on Wednesday so I will not be able to plan anything until after then but I feel a need to have just a few plans after the 6th so we will see what happens.
I can't sleep in so I didn't get enough sleep last night. I'm going to get off to bed very soon and see if some sleep lifts my sad mood a little for tomorrow so that I can enjoy the last couple of days off. Take care everyone. Ailsa xxx
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