My husband - Chris - died on the 2nd May 2009 because he had anal cancer. He knew he was going and we spoke about lots and lots of things before he died. That is why I am just not prepared for the huge amount of guilt I feel now. I feel guilty that the world hasn't stopped turning round even though he has died. I feel like everything should stop as a mark of respect. I also feel very guilty that he had to be so ill he had to die. What a cruel cruel thing it is to make someone so ill their body just stops working. I wasn't ready for him to go. I really really hope these are normal feelings because I must hang on to my sanity for the sake of my 3 children. I have never known sadness like I feel right now. I can't believe that I will not hear his voice or feel his touch again. We were married for almost 32 years and I have known Chris for 34 years - since I was 16. What happens now? Ailsa
Dearest Sue - thank you so much for your (((((hugs)))))..........your kindness........... your bullying (even though very gently done!).........and your humour (which seems to match my own!)............ Have a lovely day tomorrow xxxxxx
Hi all
Well thats the kids put to bed .I had a tear in my eye when I put George down to bed.Hes really exited and we put pies and drink out for santa.And carrots and water for the reindeer.Hes got loads of pressies,"but i cant give him the one thing he really wants"and I want,ythe fact that he still believes in santa after the year weve had is unbelievable,but I suppose it shows the innocence of youth.
I too have bought sky lanterns and will be releasing mine at 7,I will think of all of you kind ladies,,and I will also raise aglass to Nic and our loved ones.
I will say have as good a christmas as possible now as I may not get on tommorow.
Thanks Dave xxx
Comforting (((((((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))))) for you Dave............you've done so well for your boys.....Long may their innocence continue.......Love and more (((((((((((hugs))))))))))))) to you all Dot xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
dave - you are an absolute star. Your dear little boys will see you through.
sue xx
Hello All
Just got back from my Mum's and settling down with a Bailey's before bed... I am at my SIL's tomorrow so not sure if I will get chance to post, so I'll just say now that I hope we all have the kind of day that we are hoping for...
I'll be raising a glass to my lovely Miles, to all our loved ones, and indeed to us. So here's to the best bunch of freinds I have never met!
Much love to you all, Manda xx
love and bug higs right back to you, manda.
We will meet one day, of that I am sure.
sue xx
Evening to you all, Just catching up on all the posts as not been on laptop since Sunday, i have had a really bad cold and still got it feeling miserable. I had a wobbler today and broke down and just could not make myself go to tesco s shopping thank god for my wonderful daughter that is also finding it hard but she managed to do it for me. I think xmas was very numb to us last year but to me it's harder this year without Derek. Wee Charlie does help and i have spent the evening at Kim's, think i am just feeling a bit sorry for myself as can't through off the cold. Out came the diazapam today again i just couldn't cope. Thinking of you all as i couldn't have got this far without all you nice people, i will be thinking of you all at 7 o'clock tomorrow night. Luv and Hugs to you all Fiona xxxxxxxxxxx
Well all, we have made it this far.
Off to walk the dogs and then bed, left boy in the pub with his friends and a couple of other parents who had gone along. Aren't we lucky with our kids. I was hugged by them all and made to feel so welcome (apart from being called Ally McBeal tonight as I had a 'funny' hat on) so this evening has been eaiser than anticipated.
Rosemary your photos are amazing, thank Sue for the pointer. Although I am bemused by the lack of snow, and scarves, and gloves, and hats, and more scarves. Dave - you are a star - and as all stars do you will shine tomorrow and make Freddie and George's day special. Fiona hun, wrap yourself up and do whatever you need to to feel a bit better. Snuggles to Charlie. For everyone, Manda, Lynne, Ailsa, Dot, Patricia, Lynne, Gayle, Helen, Lesley and anyone else who is reading hig bugs and special loving wishes.
See you at 7pm, and if it is snowing or raining or too windy here I shan't worry becuase I know that someone somewhere will think of us all as the light goes skywards.
Judi xxxx
Judi
Quill, I think you were hiding with Charlotte when I was writing and I didn't see you! xxxxx Judi
Morning all
may you all have the best day possible , i've been awake since 3 but might try and get another hour or so . see you all at 7 tonight . I'm going to the cemmy as soon as the gates open then picking daughter up to go and see my dad .
Take care all
Lynne xxxxxxxxxx
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