My husband died in my arms on the 2nd May (2009) - what happens now?

Hi Everyone,

Welcome back Ailsa. I know what you mean about the camping. We bought a caravan last year and Wully loved it. I have been to it once (we just kept it on a site over the summer) and found it really hard. I too could have came home early. I am not sure long term what I will do but won't rush into selling it as the boys love it and it is cheap holidays. It is hard though plus it is a kind of coupley thing to do which is what I found hard too. Don't beat yourself up. Like others said you did it and that was the first step. Glad you are back - felt like ages you were away for! Your GP sounds awful. I think we are all in agreement that we all give each other the best support. We should arrange a meetup next year!!! I had the health visitor on the phone wanting to come out but I just fobbed her off as I can't be bothered really. She will ask all the right questions but doesn't have any answers.

Hi Helen, I have had a similar week where I have been really done. Had a good cry on Thursday night and think that helped get it out of my system at least for a couple of days. The pain of missing our husbands sometimes builds up to an overwhelming point. Don't you worry about being antisocial. We can't put a front all of the time. Sometimes its okay just to veg out feeling miserable on the couch. I do that now and again and don't answer the phone - I think it helps me as long as I snap out of it the next day.

Lynne - that handryer story was so funny!!! At least you cheered us up and you Debs with the bikini story.

Well I had a good day. My car is still not ready but they have given me a loan of another one until it is so I was driving that today and then went for some retail therapy too and bought some good books in Borders and had a nice lunch. I am just sitting down watching X Factor with a big cuppa and bar of chocolate and about to start reading the Saturday papers. Boys are staying at their grandparents tonight and tomorrow so I will get some jobs done tomorrow.

Hello to everyone I missed!

Gayle xx

Hope it isn't a thief Ailsa lol! I have just finished my chocolate and it was lovely :-) but need another cup of tea to wash it down.

We should definitely do a meetup - what a tonic that would be for us all. I am a member of another forum for babies born in March 06 for when I was pregnant and then had my youngest. We have now been "talking" online for 3 years and I have become good friends with some of the girls. In fact some of them have bought a tree and plaque for Wully which was lovely. It went from meeting online to becoming good friends although I have only met 2 of them in real life if you know what I mean.

Didn't think much of X Factor tonight - it was better last week as there were a couple of really good singers. Nice looking at the judges outfits though x

HI Ailsa The wine was lovely thank you very much just what I needed.
Helen you should do what you feel comfortable doing. I know how hard it is socialising there are so many people out there that say such insensitive things to you even though they may not mean to. I hate meeting people at the moment I can normally hold it together whilst out but then become an absolute wreck as soon as I am home. You have had a couple of hard days back at work so take your time everything seems to take so much more out of us at moment.
Debs x

Yes i agree a meet up would be good , if your brave enough to meet with calamity jane here , promise to be good lol

I'm glad you said that Gayle - I thought xfactor was a bit poor tonight as well. I am going to make myself some nice hot chocolate. I have had a couple of glasses of wine and it brought on the tears again. Not good but think some nice hot chocolate from my sexy machine might do the trick. I hope you are enjoying your night in Helen and that you feel a bit better tomorrow. It is odd how work makes most of us so tired. I never got tired before just from going to work.
I have family in Scotland and I was thinking of taking a trip up there next year. Maybe that would be a chance for us to meet? I'm sure if we put our minds to it quite a few of us to get to meet each other. Ailsa xx

I'm prepared to meet up with calamity jane so long as there are no hand driers (or balloons for that matter) anywhere near by!!!

Evening girls



Just a quick visit to send you all some comforting (((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))



Dot xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

hi, Dot
Good to hear your coffee morning plans are going so well. it's surprising what people will come up with if they are asked, especially for such a good cause.
sue x

I'm normally quite shy and hate asking for things - but have developed nerves of (molten) steel recently!!!!