My husband died in my arms on the 2nd May (2009) - what happens now?

 Sue xx

Goodnight everyone.

Ailsa xxx

Ahhhhhhh Ailsa, that photo is lovely. 

More snow here today, the local paper is full of 'Angry of Aberdeen' letters saying that in 50 years no one can remember the pavements or streets being so dangerous, there is literally three of four inches of solid ice everywhere and unless we have a magic thaw it will be here for some time.  The council are getting a real slating.

Should be off to mum and dad's on Wednesday by train so fingers crossed that can go ahead.  Am shattered tonight so am not going to attempt to reply as brain cell has sut down - will be here in the morning with a pen and paper so I can at least try to remember where everyone is and what they are doing. 

But I just want to say night to everyone and hig bugs.  Judi xx

Morning everyone

Just a quick goodbye before I go down to Portsmouth. Icy here this morning so hoping roads won`t be too bad! I`ll be back New Years Eve some time in the evening. Not sure what I`m doing, depends what time we get back and how tired I am. Suppose I should make an effort and join friends but we`ll see.

Anyway, hope everyone manages to get through the last couple of days of 2009!!! We ve all got through a lot this year and one good thing to come out of it all is that I have met all you lovely people and look forward to our get together next year. Gayle I am free most weekends too, will be in touch when I get back.

Bug higs and here`s to 2010...the only way is up!!!!!

Helen xxx

hello to all you penguins! ive never posted on this thread before but after spending the last couple of days reading through it i really want to just say that as a lady (altho some would say different!! lol) whos wonderful lovely husband has terminal bowel cancer, it fills me with comfort to know that there are so many lovely,kind strangers out there who know exactly how im feeling now and who are there for each other through all everything, its heartwarming and teary eyed making stuff! you're all wonderful people, im so glad i found this great site, take care all you penguins, cary xxxx

Morning All,   Welcome Cary to this site, thinking about you hang in there. Well to everyone else i think we are all feeling the same i have also had a few down days, but like everyone else looking forward to our meet i am free any weekend. It will give us all something to look forward to in 2010. Just over a week now to Darren goes off to Aus and dreading it. No plans for New Year we never done anything usually anyway. I am just off to work now then tomorrow and then off till Mon.  We have not had anymore snow but the pavements are a disgrace here as well very very slippy. Luv and Hugs to you all.  Fiona xxxxxxx

Afternoon everyone,
Thinking of you all and sending some big






Have a safe journey Helen.
Love Quill xxxx

Helen, safe journey. Fiona, thinking of you in the days leading up to your son's departure to pastures new.  Esme, your poor family having to deal with the recen ts events with the terrier. Such a sad state of affairs. Gayle, I hope that in future you will actually read all instructions on food packages and not poison yourself again. I cannot do the 27th March as that is the anniversary weekend. (20th would be good though). Having said that I do not expect you to work around me.  Cary, so sorry to hear your husband is so ill. Welcome to the thread. We have all found much love and support on here it is incredible. Dottee, I hope that you and Alan had a reasonable Christmas. We have to make the most of the good times in our lives and enjoy the good memories.  To all our other lovely 'penguins' I hope that you are getting by and have at least had some happy times over the festive season in amongst the sadness we are all feeling.

I have not had much to say over the past few days but have been well supported.

I will post in a day or two and let you know what I have been up to.

Love and angel hugs to you all, both old and new friends. I hope that 2010 holds better times for you all. (if not then come into the centre of the huddle). x x x Patricia x x x

Hi all and to Cary, a special hug.

Well a blow for me today, Dad phoned quite early and after a long chat we have decided not to risk me travelling down.  They are forecast to have a lot of snow over the next couple of days and as they live on top of a hill it seems daft to put them through a) the stress of waiting for me to get all my train connections and b) the 30 mile drive dad would have to make to pick me up.  So very, very sadly the trip home is off.  He had in fact already provisionally booked a hotel room in Chester for tomorrow night in case he couldn't make it through to get me from the station, and I know how upsetting that would be for them.   We are going to reschedule as soon as the weather improves.  So tears this morning, but I think the right decision. 

I thought I would add my 'availability' for next year.  The only weekend I can't make is 20 Feb, as that is when Boy is having his 21st Birthday party.  Apart from that I am ......... free ...... yes every weekend! And I don't like to butt in (Oh really Jude, you think so....... we hate to disagree!) but I think, and it is only a think, that Patricia may have put a wrong month - if you haven't then please accept my apologies Patricia - I thought that it was Feb 27 that was Ray's anniversary.  Rosemary, huge hugs to you and yours, a very upsetting thing to have experienced.   

Love to you all.  Judi xx