My husband - Chris - died on the 2nd May 2009 because he had anal cancer. He knew he was going and we spoke about lots and lots of things before he died. That is why I am just not prepared for the huge amount of guilt I feel now. I feel guilty that the world hasn't stopped turning round even though he has died. I feel like everything should stop as a mark of respect. I also feel very guilty that he had to be so ill he had to die. What a cruel cruel thing it is to make someone so ill their body just stops working. I wasn't ready for him to go. I really really hope these are normal feelings because I must hang on to my sanity for the sake of my 3 children. I have never known sadness like I feel right now. I can't believe that I will not hear his voice or feel his touch again. We were married for almost 32 years and I have known Chris for 34 years - since I was 16. What happens now? Ailsa
Hi again
Esme glad your daughters home and enjoyed some of her holiday xx
Lynne I think people think the same of me, that I`m ok as day to day you can be ok, well you have to be ok!! You`re allowed to have a rant, none of us want this way of life but unfortunately we`re stuck with it!! Listen to us haha!! Kick myself up the backside lol! The game is 1 - 1 at the moment, Paul would be shouting at the tele he he!!
Hugs, Helen xxx
Hi Everyone,
Hope you are all ok tonight, we all seem to have good and bad days. I had to take my cat to vet tonight as it's just not been itself so they have done blood test but kidney and liver are alright so they have kept him over night they seem to think his glands are swollen so they are going x ray him and start him on antibiotics and they will phone me about lunch time to let me know whats going on, o i miss him in the house and he usually slept at bottom of the bed and i didn't feel so alone when he is there i do hope he is going to be ok, i just sayed to Darren what next. I have had two friends in tonight so passed the night for me. I am off work tomorrow but i will not settle till i hear from vets. Well i am off to have my coffee before bed. Take Care Fiona xxxxxxx
Oh Fiona, I really hope your cat is OK. i've had both my dogs and both kittens at the vets over the last couple of months, and apart from it costing me an arm and a leg, the worry is awful - they are so much part of the family!
so sorry to hear that everyone is having such a tough time at the minute. Life certainly has it's ups and downs. More downs than ups for most of us at the moment I fear. This flippin roller coaster just won't slow down. Maybe one day eh? !!!!
The way I see it is that life goes on around me and I just somehow get swept along on the tide.
Also I hope that the animals are ok x x x
Esme, I am glad that yur daughter enjoyed her holiday to some degree. Such a worry for you.
Love and angel hugs x x Patricia x x
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