My husband died in my arms on the 2nd May (2009) - what happens now?

Hi Ladies,

Helen, glad you got the car and are happy with it.  Sorry to hear about the credit card.  It would probably be fine but best to be safe. 

Lynne, have a fantastic holiday - the break will do you the world of good.

Welcome Esme.  This thread is a great support.

Ailsa, hope you have a good couple of days away.

Debs - know what you mean about the joys of parenthood lol!!!  My two are a nightmare at the moment.  Ewan threw up this morning all over Jamie's bedroom carpet (luckily I had just ejected him from my bed 5 mins earlier lol).  So we missed Jamie's football this morning as I didn't want to risk him throwing up in my new car!  So finally cut my grass today.  I had been putting it off for ages. 

I also did my moving list so feeling a bit more organised and after I get the skip tomorrow I can get stuck into the garage.  The hospice shop will be loving me this week!

Just watching the X Factor and actually quite looking forward to the live shows as there seems to be a few good acts.

Gayle xx

Forgot to say sorry to hear about the counselling Ailsa.  I agree that this board is the best for me at the moment as all you lovely ladies are a huge support.  I think we should definitely start thinking about arranging a meet up as it would be great to see each other in person and I think it would be a great tonic for all of us.  Anyone up for it?

Gayle xx

I am if anyone dare risk it xxx

Hi all, thanks Lynne for the personal welcome. 

Although I only started reading/joining in on Friday I immediately felt that much 'at home' and for the first time, because of reading your posts, accepted the invite from a friend to go round for Saturday evening rather than sit in and cry.  And it was lovely - although I must have looked a right sight as I have two huge rescue greyhounds that came with me, and as the friend has wooden floors I had to take a massive rucksack with two large blankets (and a bottle of wine) inside.  I am sure that already the neighbourhood talk about the 'mad dog lady' who is always walking along with two daft hounds, talking to herself.  I'm not really talking to myself, normally I am explaining 'stuff'' to Ed, my hubby.

Anyway, because of you guys I went out on a Saturday and enjoyed myself, and didn't feel guily about doing so - so a big thank you.  Have also just watched X Factor and am still routing for the young teacher on the first episode or the cute but soulful wee toot from Dagenham who sand What a Wonderful World.

Judi xx

Hi Judi , glad its helped, i know it does me , keep posting hun , as for me i'm ready for bed , night for now , speak soon..

Takecare

Lynne xxxxxxxxxx                                                                                                                  

Night Lynne

Am just off the walk the hounds round the block for the last time today and then move the pile of ironing (moving it is preferable to doing it).  Thank heavens for spare bedrooms to dump things in. 

Not going to bed yet, need to be really, really tired before I do than otherwise it is gets too much. 

J x

Hi Everyone, Here i am again late as usual. Helen i hope you like your new car, i love my mini and glad i decided to get it. Lynne i hope you enjoy your time in Butlins. I have spent the day with my daughter (Kim) we went a walk as it's been a lovely day here. Then i had my son (Darren) for a while, and then went to my dad's for tea. Gayle have you heard anything about the house you put an offer on? Hello to the newcomers this site has been a life line to me so keep posting. It's a great idea for us to meet up but am i the only one from Scotland? Well i better get off to bed and see if i can sleep tonight. Take Care Fiona xxxxxxxxxxx   

Hi Fiona,

No not heard yet on the new house but hoping it is just a formality as my solicitor had a word with them beforehand to see what they would accept and that is what I offered.  All very stressful to be honest - I just want it to all be over with and in my new house (wherever that may be!).

I am in Scotland too.  I am in Falkirk at the moment but moving to the Ayrshire next month.  If anyone wants to do a meetup we could all say where we are and then try to pick somewhere kind of central.  A nice hotel or something where we could have a meal and stay overnight and just chat or whatever? 

Just watching Waking the Dead and then off to bed too. 

Gayle x

Gosh how busy you all are and so organised.  Buying cars, clearing garages, going on holidays. I am not together enough to make those kinds of decisions.  I find it difficult to motivate myself to even finish the bathroom decorating.   So far I have managed the ceiling and the glossing.  Hopefully will get the paper up this week.  Shameful I know. 

I have been for dinner with my daughter and her partner.  I was not sure I wanted to go as I am not good company right now.  However, I am glad I went because I enjoyed myself.

Judi so glad that you find this thread helpful.  It makes you realise that you are not alone doesn't it. 

Esme, welcome to the thread.  I have seen you on the whatnow boards and noticed how supportive you have been to others. 

Lynne, hope you enjoy the holiday. Come back to us safe and well.

Ailsa, Sue, Gayle, Debs, Quill, Helen, Fiona, hope the week is good for you.

If I have missed anyone I am sorry. 

See you all tomorrow maybe. 

Love and angel hugs x x Patricia x x

Patricia that is exactly what it has done, made me know I am not on my own.  Am off downstairs to turn the tv off, there is some terrible singing/noise on and I think the dogs will either start howling to join in or hide to get away from it.  Night night.